So, my FI and I have decided that we're going to forgo the wedding we originally wanted, which was in Calgary at a beautiful old house, and instead have the wedding in his hometown. This is beneficial for many reasons, mostly because it's cheaper, and also because we avoid having casual friends in the area being pissy that they didn't get the invite. However, my FI's hometown just happens to be very small and very tightly knit. He grew up as the pastor's son at the church we're getting married at, so it's hard to avoid inviting these church folk, and a lot of his childhood friends that I've never met. Now, I have no problem with this, but we both agreed that anyone that he is inviting out of courtesy (church folk) will be given an invite to the ceremony only. I've heard from several sources this is alright, however I need to know what to do. Do I just leave the reception card out of the invite? My FI says all these church folk will understand, I just want to make sure there is no misunderstanding, and that they show up with no place to sit and no meal.