Let's discuss things we don't tend to agree on:
Destination weddings: Are they rude? I'm having a destination wedding in NYC because while I live in Norway, but went to university in Canada and worked in the UK, many guests would have to travel regardless, and rather than having people travel to a small town in Norway, we figured NYC would be a fun destination. However, it WILL be significantly more expensive for some guests, and I understand why some people are against them.
Bar: What's worse - cash bar or dry wedding? We're hosting our bar entirely, but I've been to several weddings with cash bar. While I obviously prefer open bar, I'm not that bother - I *much* prefer a cash bar over no bar. Maybe that makes me a wino, so be it.
"2 weddings": Vow renewal, or so-called "real wedding" after you're legally married. Why do so many people get all up in arms over this? I don't see the big deal. At all. I haven't heard about anyone I know doing this, until recently.
A friend got married at the courthouse, but is having a ceremony and reception a few months later due to immigration issues. I don't care how they do the ceremony/reception etc at all - I'm just excited for the celebration. It makes no difference to me, I would have bought them a present regardless, and the celebration will be just as fun.