How soon is too soon after death in the family?

MsAdam

Morning, everyone. 

My question relates to the appropriate timing for announcing engagement after a death in the family. 

The deal: My FMIL's father passed away in late February of this year, and while we've been talking about marriage for a long time, my FI and I have just officially set the date in the past two weeks.  We haven't told anyone yet because we're concerned with giving her side of the family some space to grieve and such, but we don't know how much is too much/little, etc.  We're super excited about the wedding and want to tell the whole world, but we don't want to step on any toes, so to speak. 

What do you all think?  It's mid-March; is that too soon to announce the happy news?  Or should we wait longer?  If so, how much longer? 

Any help is most appreciated.  TIA!

shellydiane820

I think its fine to annouce it.  I think happy news would be a good thing right now.

danieliza1127

Yeah, I think it's fine to announce it. 

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]I think its fine to annouce it.  I think happy news would be a good thing right now.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

As a person who has had a death in the family within the last couple of weeks, I agree with this completely.

It will probably raise the morale of your FMIL.

Brie2010

I agree.  The family could probably use some happy news. 

Be respectful about it, obviously--don't tell his mother in the middle of her crying about her missing her father or something--but I think as long as your sensitivity chip is properly installed you're fine.

Congrats!

sucrets4

I think it's fine now.  It's not like it happened yesterday.  As Brie said, just be tactful about when you announce it.

trix1223

My DD was married exactly three weeks to the day after my mom died.  We all needed some happy news.  Be aware of the timing, but go ahead and announce it.  GL.

katiewhompus

I think you should be ok, just pick a good time and not make a huge deal out of it. Maybe take the approach of "So we have some happy news, Fi and I are getting married" and then let the crowd decide where to go. Vs "OMG guess what everyone we're getting married isn't that so crazy awesome what do you think"