Shower Guest List etiquette

michellevea

My maid of honor has asked me to provide her with a "guest list" for my bridal shower... Do I include every female that is invited to the wedding??

Maggie0829

No you do not have to include every female invited to your wedding.

First, you should ask your MOH how many people she can host.  Then when you have that number make a list of your nearest and dearest family and friends that you would like to spend time with at your shower (as long as they are also invited to the wedding).

pkontk

You definitely don't need to include every female invited to the wedding.  Once you have a head count from your MOH, go through the list and include your closest friends and family members (be sure to include your mom and FMIL and all the bridesmaids, if they are not helping with the planning already).

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]My maid of honor has asked me to provide her with a "guest list" for my bridal shower... Do I include every female that is invited to the wedding??
Posted by michellevea[/QUOTE]
Lol, no, def don't invite all the females. My friend's FMIL did that to me and i was so pissed when I found out.<div>
</div><div>Just look at your wedding guest list and choose those women who are closest to you.</div><div>
</div><div>I suggest: </div><div>Your mother</div><div>Your FMIL</div><div>Your grandmothers</div><div>His grandmothers</div><div>Your sisters</div><div>His sisters</div><div>Your aunts</div><div>His aunts</div><div>Your cousins</div><div>His cousins</div><div>Your friends</div><div>
</div><div>And then definitely compare your list with that your hostess had in mind. Make sure she is okay with as many people as you have on your list</div><div>
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michellevea

"I suggest: 

Your mother

Your FMIL

Your grandmothers

His grandmothers

Your sisters

His sisters

Your aunts

His aunts

Your cousins

His cousins

Your friends"

Who is left?

Cuss10

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[QUOTE]"I suggest:  Your mother Your FMIL Your grandmothers His grandmothers Your sisters His sisters Your aunts His aunts Your cousins His cousins Your friends" Who is left?
Posted by michellevea[/QUOTE]

Your parents friends, extended family ie great aunts, second cousins, FI's friends' SOs,

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]"I suggest:  Your mother Your FMIL Your grandmothers His grandmothers Your sisters His sisters Your aunts His aunts Your cousins His cousins Your friends" Who is left?
Posted by michellevea[/QUOTE]
Your FI's co-worker's wife. Great Aunt Mildred you met once when you were 5.<div>
</div><div>What I meant was, those are the groups of people you should be focusing on inviting.</div><div>My friend's FMIL gave me a list of all the females on her wedding guest list. This list included FI's mother's second cousin who they haven't talked to in literally 10 years, but invited to the wedding out of some courtesy. </div><div>
</div><div>I have no idea what your guest list looks like and if you are close to all the people on your list, then just choose groups that are important to you, if you need to keep the guest list down. Are you closer to your friends than your cousins? Maybe you can cut out your cousins from the list.</div>