So my fiance's ex stepmother is not invited to the wedding (she is the beyond evil stepmother). Her son's however, are his groomsmen, as he considers them his brothers. We thought we were going to get through this situation by keeping her at arms length and not allowing too many details of the wedding to be accessible to her (she would probably show up uninvited). Well, my fiance called his brother's cell phone the other day to talk about wedding outfits. Well it turned out his uncle answered the phone, pretending to be his brother (this uncle is the ex-step mother's brother). He corned my fiance about the wedding and basically told him he expected an invitation, and "you don't want to get on that side with me"..this uncle is an ok guy - wouldn't have invited him if he didn't invite himself, but could be worse -
HOWEVER
The problem is: How do we invite the uncle and not the step mom? I mean, if you're looking at the pecking order, step mom definitely comes before step uncle, but she's definitely not invited. I don't want to cause unneccesary drama by not inviting the uncle, but I also don't really care for his presence, and its definitely not worth the drama that it will cause when his step mom finds out that he was invited and she wasn't. This is also an opportunity for her to gain more information about the wedding than we want her to have. I don't know what to do. Any advise?