Hey everyone, I have a quick etiquette question. Sorry for the long post.
A friend of mine that I work with is getting married a week from Saturday. I just found out the date yesterday and was admittedly pretty disappointed to find out I hadn't been invited. We're not besties but better than aquantences (sp?). I made very sure that he didn't know I was hurt that I was not invited and am trying really hard to be supportive as they're all stressed out (his Fi's father is on his deathbed and not expected to make it to the wedding).
I received an email from him this morning and in the post script asked what my RSVP was for an invitation I never received. I was thrilled that he had thought of me but then I started to wonder, after reading all these posts about people with A and B lists, if this was the case. He then followed up by saying I was not to bring my SO as it was not in the budget for plus 1s. We've been dating just shy of three years so it's not a new relationship (my understanding is that this is quite tacky?)
It's too late for me to ask off work so I will not be attending but the whole thing just kind of puts a bad taste in my mouth. Especially since last summer, another coworker in the same circle got married and also "lost my invitation" and had to hand deliver it a few weeks before the wedding. I may be reading into this especially since I tend to be oversensitive but it made me wonder.
Anyway, the point of this long explanation is to ask, is it terribly rude for me not to send a gift? My budget is tight anyway and after my recent ER visit I'm really toeing the line on my finances but I don't want to insult them even though I feel kind of like I was B Listed.
P.S. sorry this is also kind of a post and run as I'm leaving work soon but I'll check when I get home.
edited for format