Invitation Help

dlast09

So we are getting married on June 12, 2011. We both currently live in Colorado, and the only people we have coming from here are his parents and brothers and then various friends we have both made, of course. Everyone else is coming from Florida and Mississippi. So we are going to do the invitations a tad early since everyone is coming from the other side of the country. So I am thinking about sending them in January or February.

But the main question I have is, what is the best way to go about getting everyone's addresses? I figured I can post on facebook to the majority of people we know. But there are still several that are not on facebook. Any help would be very appreciated! Thank you all!

Desirae

aMrsin09

I woud send out STDs to the OOT guests now and then just send the invites at the regular 8 week mark.  Six months is far too early for invites.

As for addresses, just start calling or emailing your mom and relatives.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Like PPs, I suggest STD cards followed by invites at 2 months out. Most of my guest list is OOT and I sent invites at 9 weeks out. All my OOT guests already knew the date and location of the wedding, as well as hotel and airport information thanks to the STD cards.

We got family addressed from our parents. For friends I either emailed, called, sent a FB message or asked when I ran into them in person. 

SarahNicole80

I agree with sending save the dates instead of early invitations. We will be having a lot of OOT guests as well so included in the STDs will be the lodge info where we are having it, but also other lodging info that is far less expensive. That may be against etiquette, but we are getting married close to Yosemite and lodging books up months ahead of time. As far as getting addresses, I would ask your and FHs parents for help and then email or facebook the rest.

PharmacyBride

Does your mom do Christmas cards?  That is where I got my list.  I have also emailed aunts for help and sat down with my in-laws address book.

As far as friends are concerned.. I used email, FB, and texting.  I used different  communication methods based on my friend (ie. the friend always sending me FB messages- I contacted her via FB messaging).  Calling is more polite, but I decided to do it quick and dirty : )

Keep in mind- if you are engaged and ask for people's addresses.. it kind of acts like an STD.  It doesn't bind you officially like a STD, but anyone I have asked is getting an invite- because they KNEW why I was asking!

kathrynhabibti

[QUOTE]I woud send out STDs to the OOT guests now and then just send the invites at the regular 8 week mark.  Six months is far too early for invites. As for addresses, just start calling or emailing your mom and relatives.
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]

Wise words.

I did send out mine at 3 months, but that's because the wedding is in England, and almost all of my family do not have passports so they'd need time to get them if they decide they're able to come (not expecting many to come though), and because the hold on the rooms (the venue's entire approximately 15 rooms) is only until two months before. FIs family live nearby the venue and will be going home after, but my family and some of our friends are outside of England, and while there are plenty of B&Bs in the area, it would likely be so much easier on them if they could avoid having to get accomodation elsewhere.

LoveBugBaby

Ditto to sending Save the Dates out.  I wouldn't send invites that early... like someone else said, a lot of people might misplace or forget about the invite in that time frame, leaving you with more of a headache when the RSVP date rolls around!  We had quite a few out-of-town guests that we didn't send STD's to (we're not real close with them) and we sent our invites out at 8 weeks... if they want to come, they'll come.  Two months is plenty of time to plan a trip to your wedding if they choose to be there!

As for addresses, when it came to family members, I left that up to the Mom's... I asked that anyone they included on their family list that they please get me the addresses for them as well. With friends I sent an email or text to get theirs!

banana468

Ditto STDs.

Sending invitations 6 months early is WAY too early and actually rude to your guests.

Get the addresses from your parents.