Flowers for fiance's step-parents?

jmarie1024

My fiance's parents are divorced and are both now in new serious relationships (living together).  Do I need to get flowers for his mom's boyfriend and his dad's girlfriend for the ceremony?

squirrly

Eh. . . talk to your florist & see if s/he can do something very simple & cheap.  I'd err on the side of getting something, rather than offending somebody they could stay with and eventually marry.  I don't believe it's required, but not doing it would seem to be much more dangerous than the financial cost of getting something.

pag4989

I am doing flowers for the step parents just to avoid hurt feelings.

mnp555

Marraige doesn't make you a parent.  If both of the step-parents are new, and they weren't really involved with raising your fiance, I would have to say that it isn't necessary.  But it is his call.

My dad remarried, but she did not play a role in my upbringing at all, so I am not getting her a crosage.  The crosage is an honorary thing, and, honestly, Susie Come Lately is not on the same level as my mom. 

*BeachBride0410*

I did a flower for FI's step mom....but I wouldn't get flowers if they are not married...FI's step mom has been married to father for 15 years.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I have the same situation (my parents divorced when I was 23). I'm leaning towards getting my mom's husband and my dad's girlfriend flowers, but not listing them in the program under "parents of the bride." Because they didn't raise me.

I'd also encourage your fiance to work this out for himself. In my situation, my parents' divorce was extremely toxic and they haven't spoken in at least 3 years (depsite living about 6 miles apart). I want to make them happy by including their SOs, but I don't want to include the SOs so much that the other parent gets offended that so-and-so is being honored at the same "level" as my real parents, if that makes sense.

duckie1905

We did flowers for all the step parents.  DH's situation might be different than your FI's but his parents divorce when he was young and they've both been remarried for many years.  To exclude the step parents would have been hurtful because they all had a hand in raising him and have been in his life for many years.

squirrly

Clarification - I wouldn't get something that's exactly the same as the actual parent's flowers - just a very simplified version of them.  Moreso that as a couple they look ok together, not so that they look like part of the wedding party or whatever.