RD/Reception/Officiant

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Would it ever be acceptable to give the officiant and wife a generous gift basket at the rehearsal instead of inviting them to eat with 30 strangers? 

Let's say it's not-- Our RD is a little more on the informal side. Would we send an invitation to him or invite him by word of mouth? If invitation, would we send it to the church or try to send it to his home address?

We definitely are inviting them to the reception-- I assume paper invitation is the only way to go? Home or church?

Thanks for the help!

Edit: Basket at the rehearsal, not the rehearsal dinner. Oops.

Summer2011Bride

I would invite the officiant/wife the same you are your other guests. So if you are doing word of mouth for RD, you can do word of mouth for him as well. For the reception, i would do an actual invitation.

I don't get the first part. You want to give them a gift basket at the rehearsal dinner instead of letting them eat at the rehearsal dinner?

MrsGandthebeag

We invited our JOP to our RD by email.  We did not invite her to the actual wedding reception.

jessicabessica

I would invite the officiant to the RD however you are inviting everyone else to the RD.  I think it would be weird to give a gift instead of inviting him.  

We invited our officiant and his wife to the reception by sending an invitation to their home.  If he's solely a vendor, it's not necessary to invite him and his wife to the reception, but I think it's nice to do so--without him, you couldn't have gotten married.  It seems like officiants that have no prior connection to the couple generally decline, anyway.

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Thanks guys. Summer, to clarify, the gift basket idea was to give them the basket at the actual rehearsal, not the dinner. But it doesn't sound like that's the way to go.

Thanks!