Addressing Save The Dates

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I wanted to just double-check before I commit to this.

We're being really careful with Save The Dates--only sending to family and must invites, just in case the guest list needs trimmed later. That said, I'm sending one per family...but not putting dates on there yet.

- For example, FFIL is dating someone, but we aren't putting her on the save-the-date because it's new and we don't know her yet, but she (or whoever he's dating at the time) WILL be invited to the wedding...

Is this correct?

- Also, in the example above, FSIL lives with FFIL. I was just going to address the STD to "the FLastNames." I know that gets you in trouble with actual invites, but can I get away with just one per household for STDs?

AmJam04

I am of no help to you as I don't know the answers to your questions -- but they're really good questions so I'm really looking forwawrd to seeing what others say!

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[QUOTE]I am of no help to you as I don't know the answers to your questions -- but they're really good questions so I'm really looking forwawrd to seeing what others say!
Posted by AmJam04[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know for actual invites, everyone over 18 gets their own invite, but I wasn't sure if Save The Dates could be more informal. YKWIM?

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[QUOTE]I sent magnets and I knew my relatives would mock me if I sent four magnets with my ugly mug on them to the same house.  One of my aunt's would have wound up with 5 magnets if I sent one to each of her adult sons as well.  I did one magnet per fridge and then sent all adults their own actual invitation. I didn't have any new SO's on my list of STD's (just family) so I didn't have to worry about those. 
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So, just addressing it to "The Lastnames" is ok for Save The Dates? If anyone asks if their SO is invited, I can just clear it up then, obviously. But we're still 8 months out at this point.

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Swazzle

I ended up just sending one to each person/couple. For example, at my uncle's house it's my uncle and his wife, their daughter and her husband (and their son who is not going to be invited), and my other uncle. I sent 3 save the dates to that household. I know they don't NEED 3 magnets on their fridge, but I wanted to avoid confusion. 

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[QUOTE]I personally don't mind if you only send one STD to each household, though technically that's not correct according to etiquette. BUT if I were you, I would follow addressing suggestions, and not address to "The Lastnames". <strong>In your example, I would instead address it as: FFIL Lastname FSIL Lastname 123 Main Street Sometown, State, USA</strong>
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ok, this sounds good. Is it ok to be leaving off SOs at this point for people? I'm mostly asking about college kids and such. If they're married, I'll address it to both, but I wasn't sure about people dating people.

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