quickie wedding and me

colex

This is mostly a vent, but am I wrong?

Hi! I'm new to this board. I was recently engaged in December after knowing it was coming for some time. My wedding isn't until 2015 but I have started planning, FI and I prefer a long engagement because I'm finishing up my masters degree and he's trying to become established. 

Anyway,a friend of mine was living in Amsterdam until January and has moved back from the states with him. They are now planning a wedding for April of this year. I attended the Bridal shower today and found out that our wedding colors are the same. I didn't say anything about it but then she came over to me and said that she knows our colors are the same and now wants me to change mine.

I told her that my weding isn't until 2 years from now and I doubt people will notice, she didn't say anything and just walked off.

WTH?

Sassenach1743

That's ridiculous. Your weddings could be a week apart and it still woudn't matter because no one would even notice. And she is selfish and rude for even asking you to change yours. 

As usual, I'm with CMGr. Ignore this.

AJuliaNJ

She's petty. Don't change them.

Viczaesar

Just ignore.  Don't engage the crazy.

jmayinc

I definitely concur...ignore her. She was being childish. Your colors may change by then, but I wouldn't change them because of her. She may be in her wedding princess mode...don't pay it any attention.

lyndausvi

My sister and SIL/brother both picked a maroon color for their weddings.   The weddings were in the same year (SIL/bro - feb, sister Nov.)    NBD.

CallaLily25

Totally agree with everyone else: ignore her. She has no right to dictate your colors. I'm sorry she said that to you...I bet it was awkward/irritating.

AddieCake

Ignore indeed! Don't give it another thought.

Loopyseven

I agree.  Use the colors you want.  

SlothGoals

She's crazy, no one will remember two years from now. Just ignore her.

lauraanne9

My wedding was black and white and I bought jewelry for my MOH and BM as I wanted them to wear pearls.  Fairly certain another one of those color and jewelry schemes has happened before and will in the future.

As far as I am concerned, as the bride the only thing I had "exclusive claim" to was the groom...I got to insist that no other bride got to marry him.    Other than that, the rest is up for grabs.

1mobags

Ignore the crazy.......

GoodLuckBear14

Ignore her and if she brings it up again, tell her that you will gladly change your colors just as soon as she shows you her copyright for them.

krose83013

Ignore her. 2 years away.

Peledreamsofrain

I don't see what's so crazy about my hit-list of brides that are currently planning their weddings in colors that I used.  The only reason they are using those colors are because my wedding happened and they KNEW about it.  I'll get them! *shakes fist*

I am also considering the costs behind building a time machine and taking out anyone and everyone who has ever used the colors gold and silver EVER. 

lovesclimbing

DH and I had purple and white for our colors.  My aunt also had purple and white when she got married as did a cousin of mine.  No one will remember or care!  And even if they do, your weddings will look SO different: different decor, different shades of purple, etc.

She's obsessing over nothing.

egeurts

Not to mention the fact that guests lists will be significantly or entirely different...

Belle0720

A few years ago one of my friends got engaged and set her wedding date for September. 6 months later our other friend got engaged and set her wedding date for a month before. They had the same color scheme and were BMs in each others weddings. Completely by coincidence they had the same wedding gown. We all kind of figured that the first friend was upset about it, but she never made a big deal out of it. They even ended up sharing a BM dress for each others weddings. I was one of the very few guests who went to both weddings and even though they had the same color scheme and same wedding gown, their weddings were completely different. They are still great friends and all is well in the world.

Just ignore her petty comment, she'll get over it and most people won't even remember her color scheme by the time your wedding comes around.