Involving all FI siblings

Arimmer90

I am having trouble finding a way to involve my FI 3rd sister in our wedding party. His youngest brother is ringbearer and older two are groomsmen, his best friend being his best man, two of his sisters whom i am extremely close to are my bridesmaids and my neice is my maid of honor. His 3rd sister lived both out of country and across the US the first 5 years we were dating just recently moving about an hour away. Ive only met her a handful of times at family functions. I don;t want her to be the only sibling not included because unfortunately shes always been the odd one out even as children but i don't want an uneven wedding party. We tossed around the idea of having her as an officiant but are still unsure. We are also planning on having her 4 year old daughter as one of our flower girls. Just wondered if you guys have any ideas!

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]I am having trouble finding a way to involve my FI 3rd sister in our wedding party. His youngest brother is ringbearer and older two are groomsmen, his best friend being his best man, two of his sisters whom i am extremely close to are my bridesmaids and my neice is my maid of honor. His 3rd sister lived both out of country and across the US the first 5 years we were dating just recently moving about an hour away. Ive only met her a handful of times at family functions. <strong>I don;t want her to be the only sibling not included</strong> because unfortunately shes always been the odd one out even as children<strong> but i don't want an uneven wedding party</strong>. We tossed around the idea of having her as an officiant but are still unsure. We are also planning on having her 4 year old daughter as one of our flower girls. Just wondered if you guys have any ideas!
Posted by Arimmer90[/QUOTE]

Make her a freaking bridesmaid or groomswoman and forget about even numbers. You're not only telling her she's the "odd one out", but you're saying that the number of people is more important to you than she is as an individual.

OliveOilsMom

Everything Kelly said.

Shellywid

Reader?

Jen4948

I'd include her.  There is no requirement that wedding parties have to be even.

Simply Fated

Do you want her to be an odd person ut just because of uneven sides? I mean, you're even including her daughter...
Either add her to the bridal party or maybe she can be a reader or something else.

GardenMaven

I agree with the PP that you really should not worry about uneven sides and just have her as a BM.  Is she married?  You could always have both her and her husband/SO stand up if the uneven sides bother you that much.

warpedredpenguin

We had uneven sides. I had 3 people, he had 2. No one side eyed, it didn't ruin our pictures, and we're married. Numbers are not more important than feelings. 

stantokm

Ask her to do a reading or ask her to be a bridesmaid, despite uneven numbers.  Even though you aren't close to her yet, this may help you guys to bond.

[Deleted User]

Sorry, I think asking her to be a reader is a bad idea--it kind of even highlights the idea that she's the odd person out. 

arendiva

I don't think it's neccessary to include someone you aren't close to. I may be the black sheep here but I've always thought that the bridal party should consist of the people you are closest to. You have described her as someone who you've only seen a few times ever and who lived across the country for the first 5 years of your relationship. Now if it's really important to your FI that his sister be involved than have her be a groomswoman (it makes more sense for her to stand on his side since you barely know her) and who cares about uneven sides.