Rehearsal dinner invites

Jager1219

My FIs parents our hosting our RD. They're not from the US so many things that are normal here they find strange (example having a WP, having seating for the ceremony -apparently where they're from it's normal for everyone to stand?!). I made up the RD invites and they had a few comments. The invites currently read:

Please join us for a rehearsal dinner honoring
My first name last name and FI first name last name

Friday month day
Seven o'clock in the evening

Restaurant name
Address

Hosted By FI parents name

RSVP Info

FI's parents comments are:

1 - they want the wedding mentioned so it reads a rehersal dinner in celebration of the wedding of us.  I'm OK with this.

2 - they want to omit our last names as they feel it makes it "cold"   What do you think of this?

Please note, the our RD is very formal (cocktial hour before a plated meal). They are also hiring live musicians - a flutist and harpist

emeejeeayen

I don't care about their edits either way. I think if it will make them happy you should just make those edits. 

Jager1219

I'm ok with the first edit. I just feel like it might be strange not to have our last names on the invite. Obviously everyone who's invited will know our last names since they will be attending the wedding. It's just that for such a formal RD it doesn't sit we'll with me. But on the other hand like you said they're hosting so if it makes them happy they should have it how they want it. My parents are hosting and paying 100% for the wedding. So they're doing things that FIs family wouldn't do if the roles were reversed.

AroundTheBlock

If it's a truly formal party, the most formal wording would start with the hosts' names, with the guests of honour named in the lower right corner where extra information about the event is correctly listed.:

FI parents name
request the pleasure of your company at dinner
Friday month day
Seven o'clock in the evening

Restaurant name
Address

(in smaller print in the lower left corner:)
RSVP Info                            

 (in smaller print in the lower right corner:)
in celebration following the wedding rehearsal for
Ms (Bride's full name) and
their son (FI's first name)

Actually, you can be even a little more formal by using a write-in line where the guests are individually named in the body of the invitation:

FI parents name
request the pleasure of the company of
write-in guests' formal names
at dinner ...