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Help! Guests inviting themselves!

I need some etiquette advice.  My fiance and I are having a small wedding in Vegas.  Family and a few friends.  The problem is, people are assuming they are invited -- basically inviting themselves.  I know I can just tell them that it's family only, but there will be some common friends there, so I don't want any hurt feelings.  I'm just not sure how to handle it.  Any advice is appreciated!

Re: Help! Guests inviting themselves!

  • Is it close friends that are assuming they are invited? I got married in Vegas too, so we faced the same issues.

    If people ask, you can mention that it is family and close friends, you are working with a limited budget, etc. But, most importantly, don't talk about your wedding around them. Clearly they found out about the wedding already, but try not to talk about it around them.
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  • I agree with Rach&Rich-- just don't discuss all the wedding details with friends who aren't invited-- it lessens the sting.
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  • We've had  so many people invite themselves.  the most recent was an old teacher of mine who is friends with my aunt.  I haven't seen her in 10 years and the other day she said, "congratulations on your engagement.  Be sure to send me and invitation!" 

    I am careful not to post things on facebook or talk about it to people who aren't invited.  That doesn't seem to stop them.    This wedding stuff gets pretty awkward, doesn't it?
  • yes,I  was so excited when we set the date that I mentioned it to my co workers...and now they are trying to plan my wedding!  I wasnt going to invite them bc it ws only going to be close friends and family, but now I feel obligated to invite them.   its all my fault, I think its good advice not to talk about it with them.
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