Thank you card etiquette

gigi1180

So I just started thinking about thank you cards (wedding is a bit over 3 months away).  I'm a bit confused about thank you's.  If I receive a gift at bridal shower or before the wedding, I should send a thank you card asap.  Should it just be a thank you from myself or from both my fiancee & me?
Then I know we'll send thank you's for gifts received at wedding pretty soon after wedding from both of us, but do I also need to send thank you's to people who attended wedding, but already got us a gift and were sent thank you card previously?
Any advice is greatly appreciated

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

1. You need separate TYs for shower and wedding gifts. Shower gifts should have TYs sent within 2 weeks. For any wedding gifts that come before the wedding, send a TY immediately. Send wedding TYs immediately after the wedding, or as close as possible (within 2 months).

2. If someone sends a wedding gift before the wedding and is coming to the wedding, you don't need to thank them for coming separately. Just write something like, "we really look forward to seeing you at the wedding."

3. Technically, a TY note can only be written by one person, so you can write, "John and I really loved the blender. Blah blah blah. We're really grateful! Love, Karen." However, if you sign it from both of you (which I think most people do), it's totally fine.

Kristin789

>>If I receive a gift at bridal shower or before the wedding, I should send a thank you card asap.  Should it just be a thank you from myself or from both my fiancee & me?

If you had a BRIDAL shower where the gifts were for the BRIDE only, then the shower TY comes from you alone.
If you had a WEDDING shower where the gift are for the COUPLE, then the TY comes from both of you.

>>Then I know we'll send thank you's for gifts received at wedding pretty soon after wedding from both of us
 
Yes.

>> do I also need to send thank you's to people who attended wedding, but already got us a gift and were sent thank you card previously?

No.  You have already thanked them for the wedding gift.  What would you write in the second TY?  "Rob and I just wanted to send a second thank you card, to thank you yet again for this magnificent blender..."

banana468

Kristin is incorrect.  The one writes the TY note signs the TY note.  This is for both shower or wedding gifts.

If the gift is something that your FI can use, you can mention him in the TY note but if you're writing it, you sign it.