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Just wondering how you would word this on the invitations

We want our invitations to say Mr & Mrs X and Mr and Mrs Y invite you to the marriage of their children A and B

however FI's mother died when he was REALLY little and his father remarried when he was 4 ...  his step mom is a wonderful person but we would like to somehow include both his moms on the invitations and programs

Any thoughts?

Re: Invitations

  • Mr. and Mrs. John Xavier
    request the honour of your presence
    at the wedding
    of their daughter
    Princess Anne
    to
    Mr. Brian David Yang
    son of Mr. and Mrs. David Yang
    and the late Mrs. Janet Yang

    The bride's parents host the wedding unless they are deceased or unless they do not support the marriage.  And you don't have any question about wording your parents' names.  Nowadays, wedding invitations can include the names of the groom's parents under the groom's name - and here is a way that you can do that and mention FI's biomom and stepmom both.
  • edited July 2010
    I agree with above poster- although if both sets of parents are contributing equally, you could do something like:

    Mr and Mrs Brides Family
    and
    Mr and Mrs Grooms Family
    Cordially invite you to the marriage of their children

    Your name
    and
    Fi's name


    Although I think the PP is really the way to go here.

    Then, in the programs, I'd put

    Parents of the Bride- Jane and John Smith
    Parents of the Groom- Bob and Elaine Jones
    Mother of the Groom- the late Jane Jones


    Or, if there are other people who have also died, you could put something at the end of the program like "Today we especially remember the Mother of the Groom (name), who is with us in spirit today, as always."

  • The deceased don't belong on wedding invitations.  Your FI's late mother should be properly mentioned on the programs.  If your parents and his father/step mother are collectively hosting, you'd word it this way:

    Mr. and Mrs. Bride Dad Last
    Mr. and Mrs. Groom Dad Last
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their children

    Bride Middle Last
    and
    Groom Middle Last

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    two thousand ten
    at half after five o'clock in the afternoon


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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:804be814-ee6f-4ccb-8395-3e83672894e8Post:734981b8-ee14-4dc0-aea6-6fef2f590f93">Re: Invitations</a>:
    [QUOTE]Mr. and Mrs. John Xavier request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their daughter Princess Anne to Mr. Brian David Yang son of Mr. and Mrs. David Yang and the late Mrs. Janet Yang <strong>The bride's parents host the wedding unless they are deceased or unless they do not support the marriage.</strong>  And you don't have any question about wording your parents' names.  Nowadays, wedding invitations can include the names of the groom's parents under the groom's name - and here is a way that you can do that and mention FI's biomom and stepmom both.
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    Its not 1950...anyone who is contributing can be considered to be hosting. What if the groom's parents were the only one's paying? What if the brides parents were alive, supported the marriage but couldn't afford to contribute?The brides parents wouldn't be considered the hosts. Why are all the answers I read from you based on some 1950s idea etiquette?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:804be814-ee6f-4ccb-8395-3e83672894e8Post:6b73f757-4591-49a0-951e-5c498023e881">Re: Invitations</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitations : Its not 1950...anyone who is contributing can be considered to be hosting. What if the groom's parents were the only one's paying? What if the brides parents were alive, supported the marriage but couldn't afford to contribute?The brides parents wouldn't be considered the hosts. Why are all the answers I read from you based on some 1950s idea etiquette?
    Posted by stacy&tige[/QUOTE]

    Not true. Hosting doesn't equal paying. My parents didn't contribute financially at all and still hosted.
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