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2 totally non-related questions... 1 Sortra WR other Baby shower related... sorta long

My first question is this... I was married this July. Hubby is in the Army. We had an amazing wedding, a wedding still deemed the best wedding some have ever been to (publicly, not just to me, and it even started a family fued, but they still held their ground so I believe them). That said, we had the worst thunderstorm of the year an hour before the ceremony was to start, the officant was late (due to said storm), and the power went out for about 20 mins during the reception... Due to said  storm, we also got NO outside picutres, which were the most important part for me. I am an outdoorsie/horse (sp?) person, we got married on a farm, and I was most looking forward to those pics with the horses, on the round bales, in the hay field, ect (all where we had ceremony and reception). We would have had them done within the next few days, but hubby returned to his duty station (alaska) only a few days later and didnt have the time. I am still wanting to get those shots with my dress, even knowing they didnt happen that day. Is this a total no-no even if we all know and make it public those werent on our wedding day? If so, I will reconsider

On a totally different subject, my mom and I were talking about baby showers since I had one to go to today, and she mentioned they had one here in NJ for her when she was pregnant with me. Aparently they took video of it. They all brought presents, wrapped them at her shower (?) and then my grandmother shipped them to her in Cali. She was to wait to open until my grandmother got there, and she opened them while watching the shower video. So my mom was not present at this shower for her/me. This was obviosally before registrys where they just ship what u want to u from a website but still... Does this seem bizarre to you? Would you go to a shower when the mother wouldn't be present? Does this seem gift grabby? And whats with not having the presents wrapped, but wrapping them when you get there?

Re: 2 totally non-related questions... 1 Sortra WR other Baby shower related... sorta long

  • 1. I don't see the big deal at all!

    2. Well.. yeah it seems weird.  At first I thought, "well her flyin out for the party might have been expensive if everyone else was there" but gma flew out to her, so why not just fly her to her own party instead?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_2-totally-non-related-questions-1-sortra-wr-other-baby-shower-related-sorta-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8075b7fe-11f9-41f6-9453-fff835ce3126Post:023f9343-64f2-41bd-a20b-d60ecdf4fce1">Re: 2 totally non-related questions... 1 Sortra WR other Baby shower related... sorta long</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2 totally non-related questions... 1 Sortra WR other Baby shower related... sorta long : Agreed but most showers are held later in the pregnancy when women are advised not to fly.  That could be the reason.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Very true.  If that is the case, then I think it was really sweet.  Her friends/family couldn't be there, but they still got to celebrate in honor of her and included her via video!
  • 1) I think it's fine in the long run. 2) I think its weird and I probably wouldn't go.
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  • Yay! Glad I can take the photos... now I just gotta fit back into my dress... LOL!

    I'm glad Im not the only one who thought it was weird to have the shower that way. As for Grandma, she flew in to see the baby born (me), not just for gifts. Plus my mom was 36 and I was her first (and only) pregnancy so no flying! So it wasnt just $ spent for the reason of gift delivery, but to see me born as well
  • I would definitely still do the photos. I know of a lot of instances where couples need to do wedding photos after the fact. No one really thinks twice about it. Except my friend, who around age 5 wondered why she was a baby in her parents wedding photos, when they were married for about 3 years before she was born. Turns out the original formal portraits got lost somehow (I forget the details) so they did them again. In the wedding gown and tuxedo, but this time with baby in her christening dress. So maybe that story is a little out of the norm. But the point is, go ahead and get the photos you want!
  • 1. It's your dress, and I'd think you could put it on and take pictures anytime you want.

    2. That's just weird.
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