2nd Wedding... Walk Alone or Dad Again?

mikeandlindsay06

I am having a difficult time trying to decide if I want to walk down the aisle alone or walk with my dad again.  This is my 2nd wedding, the first was the big traditional church wedding, and this will be a less formal small outdoor wedding in the park.  It is nothing personal like I dont like my dad or anything... I just don't want him to feel obligated again, and also since it is not a real formal thing, I don't mind walking alone.  I just don't want our guests to see me walking alone and my dad sitting there and them wondering why he is not walking with me.  Any suggestions? 

ginadog

My husband and I walked into the ceremony together.  Plus it's a Swedish custom and he's super Scandinavian!

How about that?

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]I am having a difficult time trying to decide if I want to walk down the aisle alone or walk with my dad again.  This is my 2nd wedding, the first was the big traditional church wedding, and this will be a less formal small outdoor wedding in the park.  It is nothing personal like I dont like my dad or anything... <strong>I just don't want him to feel obligated again</strong>, and also since it is not a real formal thing, I don't mind walking alone.  I just don't want our guests to see me walking alone and my dad sitting there and them wondering why he is not walking with me.  Any suggestions? 
Posted by mikeandlindsay06[/QUOTE]
He might enjoy it. Have you discussed it with him?

lauralaur

My grandfather walked my mother down the aisle at her wedding to my step-father. It's up to you.

MrsGandthebeag

I would just talk to him and see what he thinks.  

Loopyseven

I'd talk to him and see what he thinks.  I don't think there's a "stigma" anymore associated with you father walking or not walking you down the aisle.  People are getting married (first or second or whatever times) so much later in life these days, a lot of the symbolism of passing the daughter from father's care to husband's care no longer exists.

mmmendi

I need to talk to my dad. A) Mother asked me to tell him what to wear ( no worries, I am just letting him know there isn't any need to buy new clothes or rent a tux!) and I'm not sure what my dad might expect. It is also my 2nd wedding. I would lik my two sons to escort me halfway, and then I'd like to walk alone.

Avion22

My father "escorted" me for both of my weddings (he didn't "give me away").     There's nothing wrong with him escorting you if that's what you want.  But if you choose to do something different, that's okay too:-)

MyUserName1

My dad escorted me for my second wedding as well.  I was originally planning to walk myself because it seemed silly due to my age and the fact that he's already walked me down the aisle once before.  But my dad really wanted to, so I figured it was no skin off my nose. 

itzMS

No harm in asking him!

I know girls who have chosen to walk alone for their first weddings (some due to difficult family situations, some with "normal" family situations!)

I don't think it matters anymore which marriage it is. Just do what is most personal to you!

lily_721

I was planning to walk alone for my second wedding but my dad was really upset.  So he walked me down and all were very happy.