Would you be hurt? Vent.

littleluckypenny

I know I should never expect an invitation.  And I truly didn't.  My boss got married on Saturday, and I was really excited for her.  I even threw her a surprise "best wishes" office get together (just some cake and a card). 

I came into work today and heard everyone talking about how lovely her wedding was.  It appears I was the only one not invited, and it's only 5 people including my boss in my department. Inviting 1 person I wouldn't have cared, or even inviting 2 people.  But to invite everyone but me just has me feeling a bit down.  I guess people don't really care about the "just include everyone if it means leaving one person out" thing.  Guess I just needed to get that off my chest.   

angryangry

This almost sounds like the invitation was lost in the mail, and your boss just thinks that you never RSVPd. 

Did you start working there much after the other people? Have you had trouble getting along with your boss?

littleluckypenny

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[QUOTE]This almost sounds like the invitation was lost in the mail, and your boss just thinks that you never RSVPd.  Did you start working there much after the other people? Have you had trouble getting along with your boss?
Posted by angryangry[/QUOTE]

I've worked at this job almost a year before my boss started.  I've never had any trouble with anyone, which is why I thought it very surprising that everyone<em> except</em> me was invited to the wedding.

And if the invitation got lost, I would figure she would ask me if I was coming or not, as my desk is 5 feet away.

littleluckypenny

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Would you be hurt? Vent.: This was my first thought too. My second thought was that maybe they didn't all attend, but are talking about photos they saw on FB?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

No, they were all talking about how they were stuck in traffic and got there just in time for the ceremony.

musicalsunlight

Dang, that sucks. I would feel hurt too in that situation. Sorry that happened to you, doesn't sound like the boss understands how doing something like that sends a not so great message.

aragx6

I would have been upset too. I'm so sorry!

Mrs.B6302007

That really sucks.  I would have had my feelings hurt, too.

dumdumfroggie

I'm sorry  I'm experiencing something quite similar right now.  Keep your head up.

angryangry

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[QUOTE]Also?  It's crass of your coworkers to discuss it in front of you, knowing clearly that you were not there. 
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

<div>I wouldn't hold this too strongly against the coworkers, as they probably assumed that she was invited but couldn't attend. </div><div>
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TaraMc728

I am sorry to hear about this.  i would be upset as well.

[Deleted User]

I would feel hurt as well. 

BostonGIrl4732

I'm sorry you have to deal with this ((hugs))

EK2013

I would be very hurt by that. It sounds like it wasn't even that you minded not being invited; the problem is being the only one excluded, and your coworkers are not being very sensitive in their excitement right now.

Off-topic: I've been eyeing your signature picture for several days now. Based on your location, I'm wondering if you took your pictures in a garden at my alma mater. What a lovely pic!

littleluckypenny

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-you-be-hurt-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:81741f14-852b-4cdc-a213-cebb90b67642Post:8d6d42cd-d8f6-437c-982f-a4d222521f82">Re: Would you be hurt? Vent.</a>:
[QUOTE]I would be very hurt by that. It sounds like it wasn't even that you minded not being invited; the problem is being the only one excluded, and your coworkers are not being very sensitive in their excitement right now. Off-topic: I've been eyeing your signature picture for several days now. <strong>Based on your location, I'm wondering if you took your pictures in a garden at my alma mater. What a lovely pic!</strong>
Posted by EK2013[/QUOTE]

Thanks!<strong> *YGPM*</strong>

englishemily

I would be hurt : ( Rude of her not to invite and of them to mention it in front of you (but maybe they think you declined?) Eiether way odd it was not discussed in the run up. Keep your chin up and dont let them see you upset : )