NWRBaby Shower

StephJean83

My sister lives in AL and is coming to WI in May for a baby shower that a friend of hers offer to give her. She booked a hall and ordered a cake through a lady who does it on the side. She also told my sister she couldn't afford invites, food or much else and that she doesn't know how anything will get done. She never gave my sister a limit for guests and since she wants to include all friends and family, the list is over 40. My mom, my sister's MIL, my other sister and I have all offered to help cover costs. She refuses to acknowledge any of our attempts at offering to help. My sister doesn't want to decline but have my sister and I take over and have her friend help. What is the best way to approach her friend about this?

StephJean83

My sister has asked her and she bean dips her. My sister would be fine with cake and drinks, but the friend doesn't to properly host anything. My sister asked her the other day about the invite list to double check some addresses and both my sister and mine weren't on it as well as our whole family. I was told the invites are an issue because my sister finds out mid April what she is having, but friend want to mail invites this coming week. Friend says she is doing it because it is the Saturday of Mother's Day weekend.

MrsGandthebeag

How exactly is the friend hosting if she's not actually doing anything?  Did she just offer to hold the shower at her house?  If so, I would just have your mom, you, MIL bring some food with you.  If friend can't afford to have food, it's not like there would be too much or doubles if you guys just showed up with food.

StephJean83

When my sister announced she was pregnant, the friend said, "Oh I want to host your shower". She booked the VFW in her town and called her cake lady and ordered some sheet cakes. When my sister asked her for a number of guests, she told sis to invite whoever she wants. So my sister complied a list of friends and family and sent it to her. She has since complained about the cost of everything, from invites to the cake, to the hall rental and food/drink. Whenever anyone offers to help, she ignores us or says it is taken care of. I found out that my sister made the invites and all her friend had to do was fill in date, time, location, babies gender, registry info and RSVP. Since my sister can't find out the gender until April 15, the friend was gonna put "unknown" and mail invites this week.