Wedding Etiquette Forum

AM i wrong>

My Fi and i decided on a small wedding (we are paying for it and want it to be a very intimate affair, we want to know and have a relationship with everyone there and we cant affod a big shindig)  His parents keep adding guest to the list, the first group of  people they added I let it slide bc my fiance had an idea who they were but now there adding more people that he has no clue who they are.  heres the problem...it puts me way over budget, but more importantly i let the budget thing go with the first group bc in the end all its just money...but now we are out of room, the chapel we are getting married in only hold 80 tightly and there is NO standing room and at the reception overfow can go outside but i didnt want to make that a necessity because itll be about 95 degrees.    I sent her a polite email in repsonse to the email she send me with the additional guest explaining to her why i am stressed about inviting these ppl.  I realy think its wrong to invite ppl to a wedding have them travel 8 hrs to come hten not have a place for them in the chapel or at the reception..

Re: AM i wrong>

  • Nope, you've done exactly right.  Just tell them no, and if they can't abide by that, then they're the one's doing wrong.
  • You're only wrong if you let this go and send invitations to these people. 
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  • I know I'm in the minority here, but when you're paying for your entire wedding on your own - the only people I believe who have any say in the guest list are you and your fiance.  We didn't even give our families the option of adding to the list.

    Tell her there is no room or budget and leave it at that.  Good luck.
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  • If it's a matter of the number of people and them being a safety hazard, then they cannot be invited. But if your ILs are adament about having these people there, then they can pay for them.
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