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RuthDelgado

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Mrs.B6302007

Send them now.  It's polite to acknowledge the gift right away and it will be fewer notes to write after the wedding.

monikaedwards

Awesome idea! I would say 'thank you' at the office and of course send a more formal thank you card after the wedding.

mica178

You are supposed to send thank you notes for gifts received before the wedding before the wedding (and ideally within 2 weeks of receiving the gift).

Don't get me started on the HM fund.

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:ddc4f011-6baf-48ec-8e3f-3da89d3ce34a">Re:When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?</a>:
[QUOTE]Awesome idea! I would say 'thank you' at the office and of course send a more formal thank you card after the wedding.
Posted by monikaedwards[/QUOTE]

<div>No. Just no. You send a TY ASAP after you receive the gift. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm not going to touch the HM registry. I just don't have the energy. </div>

J&K10910

In Response to Re:When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?:[QUOTE]Awesome idea! I would say 'thank you' at the office and of course send a more formal thank you card after the wedding. Posted by monikaedwards[/QUOTE]

This post is full of wrong.

Send the notes right away.

monikaedwards

I'm not up on the acronyms here, what does FTFY mean?

aragx6

Send it now.

Expect some of your guests to be offended by your HM registry.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:d4500d68-71cb-4177-b902-3381d84cc09e">Re:When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not up on the acronyms here, what does FTFY mean?
Posted by monikaedwards[/QUOTE]

fixed that for ya'

J&K10910

In Response to Re:When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?:[QUOTE]I'm not up on the acronyms here, what does FTFY mean? Posted by monikaedwards[/QUOTE]

Fixed that for you.

monikaedwards

Ah I see. Well, I guess I have a lot to learn on here. Sorry to offend anyone, kinda new here. I have never heard of a HM fund before but will definitely steer clear.

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:6052ffc2-10f3-4bd6-babc-58a76379b5b1">Re: When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks to all of you for your suggestions.  Just for the record, the Honeyfund idea was very well received by all my guests; they found it innovative and were very glad to contribute.  Nobody got offended, on the contrary, they were super excited :)
Posted by RuthDelgado[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I'd be SUPER EXCITED to go on a website to pay for someone else's honeymoon and spend $100 that they'll only get like $75 of. That would make me all sunshine and rainbows inside. </div>

RuthDelgado

It's ok; you will never be able to make everyone happy and cannot control people's reactions.  We didn't include the information on the honeyfund in the invitations or asked them to contribute.  People were asking where to send gifts to what we responded that their presence was enough; however, you cannot tell people you don't want gifts and you should give them the option to offer one, so we did this.  I don't know what kind of wedding you are planning but ours is very small with very close friends and family.  They are all very good intentioned

Good luck to you in your wedding and all the happiness in the world!!

libby2483

In Response to Re:When to send thank you notes for cash gifts already received?:Ah I see. Well, I guess I have a lot to learn on here. Sorry to offend anyone, kinda new here. I have never heard of a HM fund before but will definitely steer clear. Posted by monikaedwards That is probably a wise choice. Many people find them to be tacky because you are essentially asking your guests for cash. Edit: reading fail

HandBanana

I hate when the fact that no one has complained or said they are offended is used as evidence that something isn't offensive or rude.  Honeymoon funds, registering for flatscreen tvs, PPD, cash bars, tiered receptions, etc.

Have you guys seen the pin for the glass jug painted "Honeymoon Fund" that you are suppose to put on your reception table?  Guests should just drop that hard earned cash anonymously to pay for your honeymoon after they have already given you a generous gift.

Girlie1030

Why the DD?

pokepoke27

The DD is because OP is obviously a fragile flower. I just got this gem as a PM titled "Why are you so unhappy?"

I appreciate your taking the time to suggest ideas and respond to my question but don't appreciate your being rude and sarcastic.   If you don't agree with people, then just ignore the posts instead of taking your unhappiness on others. 

Girlie1030

Oh good grief Poke.  Stop being such a miserable ol' hag would ya? 

HandBanana

And she didn't even express sympathy for H or ask why you are still here after being married?

pokepoke27

Haha, I AM special. 

Does this mean I lose my nomination for friendliest knottie in the superlatives?

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:693e5379-a62f-43b2-aad1-bbaeefa2d9f3">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]And she didn't even express sympathy for H or ask why you are still here after being married?
Posted by HandBanana[/QUOTE]

<div>Nah, I guess she figures H must be an asshat if he married me, and I must be here because a marriage between an asshat and a biiiitch must make me need to escape. </div>

HandBanana

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:368aa94d-c481-419c-ada4-4304da7eec69">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]My cousin demanded that the bridesmaids give her a Visa GC as her shower gift so that she and her H could buy a TV for their living room.  No one told her she was rude, but we all still talk shiiit on her four years later.  Thanks for coming out, Eagles.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

Love it!  But you guys obviously weren't insulted because you didn't tell her how rude she was being.

RuthDelgado

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:4e85cca9-77b7-427a-aaef-89a506387977">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]Why the DD?
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]
 If I knew I was going to get mean and rude answers to a question, I would've never posted anything at all.  I thought this was an adult and mature audience, but I guess that's not the case.  People need to learn how to agree to disagree in a corteous way. I will never appreciate sarcasm nor rudeness from anyone.

HandBanana

If you don't appreciate sarcasm you definitely shouldn't post.

Girlie1030

Nobody was either mean nor rude.  They were honest; you just didn't like what they had to say. 

QueerFemme

Dang !  I'm bummed I missed the original post!!  

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:6b246906-d8e9-45ea-9953-688a0d2b90ce">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]Dang !  I'm bummed I missed the original post!!  
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

<div>OP was asking when she should send out TYs for the peole that send her gifts on her HM registry. </div><div>
</div><div>FWIW Mica and I both answered her question, then just mentioned that we don't care for HM registries. </div>

specialk84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:9a899cec-64ce-4871-9a32-654805565186">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *** :  If I knew I was going to get mean and rude answers to a question, I would've never posted anything at all.  I thought this was an adult and mature audience, but I guess that's not the case.  People need to learn how to agree to disagree in a corteous way. <strong>I will never appreciate</strong> sarcasm nor <strong>rudeness from anyone</strong>.
Posted by RuthDelgado[/QUOTE]

<div>Unless you're the one doing it, right?</div>

Legu

[insert lazy bored voice] Omg ur all so meen why r u even on here wen ur already married r u so bord u have nothing better 2 do than hurl abuse at people who innocently post on here looking for some advice I feel so bad for ur husbands altho I guess u wouldn't dare be this rude in real life There you go, for anyone missing their daily hit of "you're all horrible and childish" :]

QueerFemme

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_when-to-send-thank-you-notes-for-cash-gifts-already-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:828419a2-814c-4ef6-8573-6287862c7bb6Post:7109ca84-8ee5-424d-ae1a-2066caed41ce">Re: ***</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *** : OP was asking when she should send out TYs for the peole that send her gifts on her HM registry.  FWIW Mica and I both answered her question, then just mentioned that we don't care for HM registries. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

thanks Poke !   that wasn't nearly as good as I thought it would be.