My BIL (H's brother) is getting married in April. My MIL wants to throw a shower for my FSIL and I have a couple of etiquette questions. I know that it's inappropriate for the bride's mother or sister to throw a bridal shower because it looks gift grabby. It would seem that the same thing could be said about the groom's mother throwing a /couples/ shower, but not if she threw a /bridal/ shower - am I right? As the bride's FSIL and the groom's SIL, am I a far enough removed relation to be able to host /either/ a couples or a bridal shower without it being inappropriate?
I'd prefer to throw a couples shower instead of a bridal shower because (1) the bride has had a shower already (and given the small size of the wedding that could seem grabby too - so if it would be inappropriate for me to throw a couples shower, I'd probably throw a lingerie shower to mix it up a bit) and (2) most of her closest friends (outside the bridal party) are guys, so they weren't invited to the first shower.
Any thoughts are welcome :-)