Ok, ladies. This is a desperate cry for advice. I am in quite a pickle with my fiancé, who is pretty upset with me right now. In my family it is tradition to do a bridal shower. Of course, only female guests of the wedding are involved, this is tradition. This is fine. On the other hand, my fiance’s family do Jack and Jill’s. This is also fine with me…except for the fact that anyone is invited—and they have to buy tickets…I am appalled by this. I think it is horribly tacky and I KNOW none of my family will attend. It just sounds like a fundraiser to me. I went to his sisters this past April (whom I was a bridesmaid for) and they charged $20 a person or $30 a couple. All food and drink was provided. They also did raffles (which cost extra) and all of the bridesmaids were asked to donate baskets (themed, for example, the one I did was a doggie one, bones, a water dish, a leash, treats, etc.) I think it’s a cute idea, but to charge people to come party with you, to me is ridiculous. I don’t know what to do, he said this is tradition in his family and he said if I think it’s embarrassing then don’t come. (YES! He REALLY did say that) He told me not to say that to his mom because it will offend her. I don’t know what to do!!! Should I stick it out? I also don’t want my family looking bad because they won’t partake in that type of event….I’m in a bind, ladies, help!!!!