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Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!

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    last comment more geared towards the people who dont like the fact that i dont sit in front of my computer in order to catch all of the responses. My fault for not living with a computer  glued in front of my eyes (thanks for the kick in the butt Kiki and JessandTrav) you two are welcome to stop commenting any time if you are offended by me not responding fast enough for your liking.
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    Anna, I sent you a private message. 

    Also, we're not being b!tches, just being honest with you and then others were just having some fun.  Don't take it so personally.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:4f018e74-efef-4190-b6e1-35767228e242">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow, you ladies are tough in here. I guess I should asking for help on the non-bitch board.
    Posted by AnnaWhite_Capo[/QUOTE]


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    The reason your name is a concern is that you can easily be searched via the information you've provided.  The regulars here aren't the type to take that information and use it against you, but you never know who's lurking out there, and what they might do with that info.
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    Jess and Trav is annoying, you'll learn that. But keep calling us bitches, and see how much help you get. Your full name being posted all over the boards isn't the smartest thing, ever heard of internet safety? People are crazy. Don't say we didn't warn you, that's all.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:4885ba12-3bcd-4456-9380-c3567a6c17af">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Jess and Trav is annoying, you'll learn that. But keep calling us bitches, and see how much help you get. Your full name being posted all over the boards isn't the smartest thing, ever heard of internet safety? People are crazy. Don't say we didn't warn you, that's all.
    Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

    Hah.
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    You need to lurk a little.  Everybody's being relatively nice.  But the "non-bitch board" comment made me laugh anyway.

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    Anna - Just curious. Do guest purchase tickets for the Jack and Jill instead of bringing a gift? Or are they expected to do both?
    Your fi sounds like a groomzilla. Since your fmil is planning this shower, you should let her know how you feel about selling tickets. A couples shower, no tickets would be a nice compromise and both sides of the family could be invited.
    If fi insists on having his way. Have separate showers for the 2 families. Use the proceeds from the Jack and Jill for pre marital counseling. Good luck.

                       
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    Jess. Go eat a swiss cake roll and read the kama sutra. You're so biitchy.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:8a9f95f4-40bf-4f3b-a443-2c177c183d1c">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Not quite sure why my name is such a big deal, but thats not my question here. I appreciate all of your feedback. I have discussed this with him and I think we are going to talk with his mom about doing a joint jack and jill with <strong>only invited guests of the wedding</strong>. This is what I wanted all along (minus the men) but if that's the compromise that I have to make, I'll be more than happy to accomodate. I'm more of a traditionalist. He understands why I think it's tacky as an outsider to the Jack and Jill circuit. However this is a tradition in his family and I need to be aware that some feelings might be hurt. First step will be talking to his mom and saving feelings. I would rather talk to her ahead of time and explain my point of view before she starts planning anything.
    Posted by AnnaWhite_Capo[/QUOTE]
    Definitley this. Think of how rude it would be to be invited to a fundraiser for a wedding you weren't even good enough to attend. I think its a good compromise to have a joint shower, but without selling tickets to your invited guests.
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    I wasnt calling you all b!tches. Most of the advice I got was very helpful and greatly appreciated. But if people talk crap to me, Im not one to stay quiet. I definitely appreciate the feedback on the name, I will be changing that ASAP.
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    thanks Sarah, I agree this is my best route.
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    Jess. Go eat a swiss cake roll and read the kama sutra. You're so biitchy.
    Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]


    You are my hero of the day.
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    I just had surgery yesterday so I may be a little sensitive, lol. I apologize to everyone that was nice enough to respond with helpful tips.
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    you can't change your name, you'll have to make a new account. And by saying you would post on the non-bitch board, yeah, you were calling us bitches.
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    Don't get sassy, little lady.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:6f2cf7af-7866-4b5c-8240-8acb5a0e77aa">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wasnt calling you all b!tches. Most of the advice I got was very helpful and greatly appreciated. But if people talk crap to me, Im not one to stay quiet. I definitely appreciate the feedback on the name, I will be changing that ASAP.
    Posted by AnnaWhite_Capo[/QUOTE]

    There's no way to change it without creating an entirely new account. Just so you know.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:e3877848-de89-4b44-841c-f5cd898bf95e">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]you can't change your name, you'll have to make a new account. And by saying you would post on the non-bitch board, yeah, you were calling us bitches.
    Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I noticed that. What can I say, Im a newbie. I apologize for the comment to the majority of you
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:5162c64c-eaff-4db7-89fa-5dca55ab0f99">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!! : There's no way to change it without creating an entirely new account. Just so you know.
    Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I just caught that. that sucks. But what can I do now? My mistake. I've had this account for over a year, hopefully my good luck doesnt run out now.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:f85854f1-8b29-4dc9-aaca-37527a6a8519">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Jess. Go eat a swiss cake roll and read the kama sutra. You're so biitchy.
    Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

    You know me so well, Whit.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:3c236d17-ed34-432c-bb6b-95741be62930">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Don't get sassy, little lady.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

    Or??? Like I said before, YOU are free to go bother someone else whenever you're ready. Generally when people ask questions on here, it's not to get hated on by people like you. I needed advice, so I asked. If you are going to continue to be rude to me, you can avoid me as I intend to do you.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:8f9a7756-b20f-42d4-ab57-a749e86b5ed4">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You are my hero of the day.
    Posted by AnnaWhite_Capo[/QUOTE]

    Not overly familiar with sarcasm, dear? Well bless your heart.
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    Hold the train. Your FI and his mother wanted to not only charge a cover fee for this party, but invite people who arent even invited to the wedding?!
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    Anna,

    Look, I'm not trying to be rude. Sometimes you get bored and you start having fun. If you keep posting here, you'll learn that most of us are having fun with each other. Sure, there are people that don't care for others, as Pumpkinpumpkin shared, but I did give you legitimate advice. You can't deny that.

    Most of the time when we see posts like this, the original poster is never to be seen again.


    I will say, for the record, that if you FI won't compromise, then you should talk to him about it. That wasn't me trying to be mean, that's me trying to help. Do with it what you will, but these boards do something good for people all the time. Someone will post a problem they're having, and because it's a personal thing, they can't see things the way that someone who is unbiased would. Maybe you don't see that he's unwilling to compromise. That's why I pointed it out.

    But I like to have fun. I'm a substitute teacher and I don't work every day, so while DH is off at work, I play on the computer to pass the time.


    Since you can't change your name, I would consider lying about the location on your account, to at least throw the internet crazies off.

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    Oh Jess. Awesome sig pic dear.

    Sorry, anna, I forgot to use my sarcasm font, but Jess does know what I'm talking about.

    Sara, thanks for throwing around the bless your heart. I was getting there. . . :D
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:70c42081-527a-4c53-980f-756523844efe">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!! : Or??? Like I said before, YOU are free to go bother someone else whenever you're ready. Generally when people ask questions on here, it's not to get hated on by people like you. I needed advice, so I asked. If you are going to continue to be rude to me, you can avoid me as I intend to do you.
    Posted by AnnaWhite_Capo[/QUOTE]

    Yay, I've got permission to go bother someone else!  Oh, and sorry, you don't get to tell me (or anyone here) which threads I can post in or what I can say in those threads.  Get over it.  You're whiny, and I highly doubt you're going to stick around here with such a thin skin.  So, I probably wouldn't need to 'avoid you' for very long anyway.  Try Chit Chat or something.

    Hater.
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    Thanks JessandTrav. I will do that. I understand the need for the internet security. No, I really and truly wanted the advice. This has really been bugging me. More that I was going to offend his family. They do this with everyone who is getting married and until I came around and told them I thought it was rude and tacky, they thought it was a great idea. My main issue is the fact that she uses it as a fundraiser. I just dont agree with that. We have been to 2 for his family members and 1 other for a friend of his. In one of the instances we werent even invited to the wedding, which was honestly fine with me, since I wasnt a big fan of the couple anyway. but I personally cannot fathom inviting people ot a party where they had to pay to get in and then not invite them to the actual wedding. But I have discussed this with my FI who understands my point of view now that I've really made him aware how uncomfortable the idea made me. He said he has no problems going to talk to his mom with me so Im not alone. Im sure once this is out in the air (the way I feel) there wont be any issues. I just wasnt sure if anyone else had ever encountered this situation, or if any one else had ever been to one of these particular showers? I guess around here it's pretty common, but I just dont agree with it. Not for me.
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    Well, again, before you get into worrying about these details, I feel (based on the information that I've been given from you) that you need to talk to your FI about the compromise issue.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jack-jill-showerneed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:838d92d6-1638-440c-badb-78b78e818088Post:34ff3abb-4771-4412-9538-c4960d53490e">Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jack and Jill Shower...NEED HELP!!! : Yay, I've got permission to go bother someone else!  Oh, and sorry, you don't get to tell me (or anyone here) which threads I can post in or what I can say in those threads.  Get over it.  You're whiny, and I highly doubt you're going to stick around here with such a thin skin.  So, I probably wouldn't need to 'avoid you' for very long anyway.  Try Chit Chat or something. Hater.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

    Not whiny. You just annoy me. And you are not enough to scare me away, sorry for ya. And what I am hating on? surely, you don't think I am hating on you? Dont make me laugh.
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