We are planning a 150 person wedding, that my parents are paying for the reception (who I can't believe they are doing, on the fact that my dad has been unemployed for over 2 years, so I am very gracious of this) and my fiance are paying for everything else.
We immediately told my family they can invite 60 people, same with my fiance's family and that we will invite 30 friends. It seemed easy enough.
But my fiance's mom has already said that she thinks she is going to go over and will pay the plate price for additional people (although see didn't take in consideration taxes, gratuity, decor, invites and everything else that goes into per person costs).
Now we can fit 200 in our venue, although it will be crowded. I really wanted to stay at 150 but I understand if there are few extra people, so I was thinking we could invite 175, which gives her an extra 25 and then we probably will have some people not make it which should work out nicely.
But then she told me about her "B" list. The one thing I'm worried about how "B" lists work is when do they get their invite? You send the invites out 3 months in advance and how long does it usually take to figure out the final count that you then decide how many more you can invite? I just don't want it to come off to these "B" list people that they were only invited because someone else wasn't able to make it and they are disposable. I am really trying to get her to just make a concise "A" list to avoid this problem. But it seems like everytime we go out to dinner or go somewhere she is telling people about the wedding that my fiance doesn't even know or she hasn't spoken to in ages. I just fear she is going to spread herself too much and people may get left out, and I just don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt. I feel like it is better to keep your mouth shut unless you are positive you have the space.
Any other experiences? I'd love to hear other people's stories! Thanks!
