Rehearsal dinner invitation etiquette

achiduck

So I know you're supposed to invite anyone who needs to be at the rehearsal to the RD but is it really necessary to mail an invitation to the head of the string quartet (he's the only one that actually comes to the rehearsal) or is it ok to send an e-mail that states there is a dinner afterwards at X time and place and he's welcome to join us?

crash2729

I would just send an email TBH.

It's quicker and easier.

achiduck

That's what I figured, but I didn't want to be rude. Plus I don't know his wife's name so I'd have to e-mail him to get that anyway since I'm not about to write "and guest" on his would-be invitation.

DramaGeek

We didn't do paper invitations for anyone.  Everyone invited was told via email or phone call.  You're totally good to go :-)

Loopyseven

We didn't send actual invitations to anyone either, just e-mail.  And if he's a paid vendor, I don't know that you HAVE to invite him to the RD.  I know we've had people ask about inviting ceremony only musicians to the reception and told them since they're paid vendors and their part is done they don't need an inviitation to the reception - usually the only ceremony vendor invited to the reception is the officiant - as far as I know.  

cwaggoner07

We did an evite, and it was perfect. We added our ceremony musician and our DOC to the list. It was easy.

MyNameIsNot

If you are paying him to be there, you don't have to invite him.  I wouldn't unless he is a friend.  Usually the officiant is the only vendor invited to attend the RD and reception.