Help with mother-groom first dance song!

Boricua Gipsy

Hi!!! Should I tell my mother-in-law which song we chose for her to dance with my fiancé? We chose In My Life by The Beatles, which both of them like and I'd like to make it a surprise. I know she'll get very emotional and it will be an awesome moment. But what if she asks before the rehearsal? Should we tell her?

em01092

Did she express any interest doing the dance and in choosing the song? My FMIL wants to choose a song together with my FI, and I couldn't care less, so they are deciding. Also, some moms don't even want to do the dance. 

If she didn't want to choose, then I don't think it matters. I think personally I would want to know, as I'm not good with surprises, and she may not want to break down in front of everyone on the spot like that. 

Snippylynn

This is utterly a non issue.

Loopyseven

I would make sure SHE doesn't have a song that she's always been dreaming about dancing with him to at his wedding.  I don't understand what keeping the song a surprise does for you, but whatever floats your boat on this one though.

musicxstore

If she asks, I would tell her. However, FI and I are choosing to keep the song him and his mom are going to be dancing to ("Simple Man" by Lynyrd Skynyrd) a surprise.

Snippy is right that, in the grand scheme of things, this really shouldn't be an issue.

J&K10910

Springing emotional surprises on people in front of large audiences is typically not a good idea, unless you know the person will ENJOY that.

I'd be really embarassed and upset if someone got me to be all emotional in front of a ton of people and I had no warning it was coming.

kmmssg

I'm kinda curious about whether or not FMIL was asked if she had anything in mind.  I'd be pretty peeved if my FDIL decided what song I would be dancing with my son to.  Even if DS were involved in the choice, I'd be peeved not to be asked for some input.  it is MOG's only big moment in the whole shebang.

MrsGandthebeag

I asked my FI at the time what song he wanted to dance to with his mom.  He said he didn't care, so I asked my MIL what song she wanted.  She picked some songs that her son didn't like, so then they sat down together to pick something.  lol.  It ended up being "I hope you dance" by Leann Womack.  It was cute.  

Boricua Gipsy

The song really isn't an issue for me, it's not like it'll determine how the wedding will go, but I just wanted some input on the subject. We decided we are keeping the song a surprise since she hasn't asked what she'll dance to (up to this point). And knowing her, she'll get emotional anyway, no matter what song is chosen. She's definitely looking forward to that moment with her "gift from God", as she calls my fiancé, lol!