I kind of need to have a talk with her about etiquette. I know over the boards I have learned that having invites to the dinner and separate invites to the dance is not acceptable. FMIL thinks that we need to have people invited to dance only because they were a part of her babies life, which could mean they met FI once in his life.
I told her that we are not going to be doing that and that if they are invited to the dance they will be invited to it all. She thinks that means we will be having more guest so instead of having 200 she thinks we need to up our numbers to 300.
Thing is, she is not paying for the wedding, my parents are and the budget is for 200 people. How do I tell her that we will have to cut those people out and that she will have to deal with it?