Inviting coworkers

itzliz

I work at a small bank with about 15 employees.  I would like to post my wedding invite on our work bullatin board and just havepeople rsvp.  however, i have one co-worker that i really don't want to show up at the wedding.  I'm worried he may just want to attend my wedding to tick me off.  Is there any way to avoid this?  Should i just invite my supervisor and just invite everyone else to the dancing portion of the reception?  Thanks in advance!

salt78

The "dancing portion" of the reception? Elaborate please. 

MissLeahM

.... I'll get the fire extinguisher.

itzliz

my friend had suggested just inviting my co workers to the dancing part of the reception, so i don't have to feed people i dont even want to be there....

angiebear11

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[QUOTE]I work at a small bank with about 15 employees.  I would like to post my wedding invite on our work bullatin board and just havepeople rsvp.  however, i have one co-worker that i really don't want to show up at the wedding.  I'm worried he may just want to attend my wedding to tick me off.  <strong>Is there any way to avoid this? </strong> Should i just invite my supervisor and just invite everyone else to the dancing portion of the reception?  Thanks in advance!
Posted by itzliz[/QUOTE]

Yes. Don't post your wedding invitation on a bulletin board at work.  Do the proper thing, and send the co-workers you want to invite and invitation via regular mail to their homes.

LauraT25

If you don't want them there, don't invite them.  If you post an invitation on a public bulletin board, then your co-worker is invited.  You may invite people individually by mailing them invitations, but you have to invite them to the whole thing.

georgia_bride09

If you post your invite in a common area, you have to expect everyone to think they're invited, even the one guy.

If I were you, I'd just invite my supervisor to the entire shindig, or nobody.

How would you invite them to the "dancing portion" of the reception? Tell them that dinner is at 6, but they shouldn't bother showing up until 7? That's classy.

Birdie1483

1) I would give anyone you want to invite a proper invite
2) You can invite whoever you want. However, I wouldn't talk about the wedding infront of people you don't invite.
3) Anyone who is invited is invited for the entire wedding ceremony to end.

I'd never heard of people being invited to the "dancing portion" of receptions until I came on The Knot. I don't get it.

georgia_bride09

You reception isn't divided into "portions". Either they're invited to the entire wedding (ceremony and reception) or they're not invited at all.

salt78

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[QUOTE]my friend had suggested just inviting my co workers to the dancing part of the reception, so i don't have to feed people i dont even want to be there....
Posted by itzliz[/QUOTE]

<div>Your friend is full of terrible ideas. </div>

itzliz

i agree....so even thou everyone knows about the wedding, just invite my supervisor?

Birdie1483

Yes, but since others aren't invited I wouldn't talk about it at work. There's no way you can hide that you're getting married. You can just avoid rubbing in people's faces that they aren't invited.

georgia_bride09

I would stop talking about your wedding at work and only invite the people at work with whom you'd hang out with outside of work. If that doesn't include your supervisor, don't invite him or her.

salt78

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[QUOTE]Yes, but since others aren't invited I wouldn't talk about it at work. There's no way you can hide that you're getting married. You can just avoid rubbing in people's faces that they aren't invited.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>Birdie is wise. </div>

quotequeen

You aren't obligated to invite your co-workers.  If you do choose to invite them, you don't have to invite all of them, you can just invite those you are close to.  But regardless, send everybody invitations to their homes, and never ever invite somebody to just a portion of the reception.  Putting up an invitation on a bulletin board is a recipe for disaster.

itzliz

Great feedback!  Thank you girls!!!

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]I would stop talking about your wedding at work and only invite the people at work with whom you'd hang out with outside of work. If that doesn't include your supervisor, don't invite him or her.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

bingo

I Want Cake

I actually disagree about inviting people to just portions.  I'd invite them (invitations sent by mail, not posted on a bulletin board) to the reception only, if you'd rather keep the ceremony to family and close friends.  Persoally, I believe that ceremonies are more personal, and I wouldn't feel comfortable having my coworkers witness it, but I'm fine with them being invited to the reception.  It helps that my ceremony venue has limited space, and we're going somewhere else for the reception.  But invite them to the whole reception, not just the "dancing portion."  If they're going to bring you a gift, the least you can do is feed them.

Lisa8888

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[QUOTE]my friend had suggested just inviting my co workers to the dancing part of the reception, so i don't have to feed people i dont even want to be there....
Posted by itzliz[/QUOTE]

LMAO! You have got to be kidding.

mysticl

I've had many co-workers get married and have never expected an invite to their weddings.  I had one co-worker post her invite on the bulletin board and had one send hers to us in a group e-mail.  I found both to be very rude and assumed that they didn't really want us there and had just done it because they felt like they "should".  Especially the e-mail one because it was addressed to people she hated. 

And with inviting people to only part of the reception to save money your venue could still charge you for those extra people.  Especially if your bar is by the head and not by the drink.