Wedding Programs

pinkdocmartens

Our wedding program includes just our parents name and the details of the bridal party.
My brother and sister are in our wedding party, but FIs sister is not.

How can I recognize additional immediate family members on the wedding program? We dont want his sister to feel completely excluded (she is going to help us with some other aspects of the wedding)...I want to put something at the bottom of the program and include her name and his grandparents name..what should it say? Special thanks? I dunnooo

itzMS

We didn't list DH's siblings in our program, none of them were in the wedding party, and none of them cared. If you're worried about FSIL's feelings, can you and FI talk to her?

pinkdocmartens

Well we thought we would also include a "shout out" to his grandparents too.

Its not that she has a problem per se, its his parents that make snarky remarks about her feeling "left out" even though she has never said anything about it. Since my entire family (of 5) is being recognized on the program we thought it would just be a nice gesture?

achiduck

You don't need to recognize every single person that is family, but not in the WP in the program. If you thing she needs something special I'd get her a corsage.

OliveOilsMom

What other aspects of the wedding is she helping with?  Is she partaking in the ceremony at all?  If she is doing a reading, then she can easily be added tot he program.  Otherwise, I agree with PP.

pinkdocmartens

Well she is just going to help with handing out the programs, helping guests find their seats, with the candy bar, etc..

I know I dont need to list her, but we want to list her and his grandparents and just dont know what to put in the heading...

His parents are not partaking in the ceremony either but we have them listed there since it would look odd if only my parents were listed

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My brother is being recognized as he is the officiant.  My parents are hosting so both their names are on the invite.  We included his mom "mother of the groom" on the program but FI's two sisters aren't listed anywhere.  I don't think it is a must to include your FSIL. 

That said, we did a thank you note in the back of the program to our combined friends and family.  If you wanted to specifically thank her in there for help with xyz, I don't see an issue.

pinkdocmartens

Also - how would i word that a cocktails/hor d'oeurves follow the ceremony then dinner at 6:30?
I don't want to say "cocktail hour" because its more like 1.5 hrs......

pinkdocmartens

Can I say Honorary Family???? And then list them?

OliveOilsMom

If FSIL is helping guests find their seats at the ceremony, then she could be listed as an usherette.

Does cocktail hour immediately start after the ceremony, meaning your having it all at one place?  Then on the invitiation, you would put the time of the event as your ceremony time.  Then skip a line and put "Reception to Immediatley Follow." 

If you are having the ceremony/reception at different locations.  Then you should have a separate insert card with your reception information.  Dinner, Drinks, & Dancing at Place, Address, Time Reception Starts.

itzMS

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[QUOTE]Can I say Honorary Family???? And then list them?
Posted by pinkdocmartens[/QUOTE]

I think doing this would make it more evident that FSIL isn't in the WP. I agree with the other poster who suggested a corsage if you would like to honor/thank your FSIL (and perhaps a gift at the RD). I think your heart is in the right place, but I've never seen siblings listed in a wedding program just for the sake of listing them.

pinkdocmartens

Thanks ladies - and yes, i have a gift for her already to thank her for all her help!