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Rehearsal Dinner Advice

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We are having a very interactive (think cooking class kind of place) for our rehearsal dinner and inviting all of our out of town guests. Everyone in FI's family is out of town (EVERYONE) and 99% of my family is in town. I think it would be nice to invite some of my in town family as well, to give the two families a chance to mingle before the wedding...but I don't know who to invite?

Do I invite some Aunts/Uncles and not others? Or all Aunts/Uncles but not cousins even though the cousins are my age? I don't want the dinner to be overrun by my in town family...but I also don't really know where to draw the line??

Any advice greatly appreciated!
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Advice

  • AllAboutTheBenjaminAllAboutTheBenjamin member
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    edited November 2010
    Honestly to me it depends on how many people there are.

    My FILs are hosting our RD and they wanted to invite all their side of the family and my side of the family so they could all meet each other.  Trouble is - that's easily 150 people (because of kids).  So we opted to leave the kids at home and just invited aunts and uncles, but we're still at 72 people.  And I still think its ridiculous.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Oh I agree! With just his out of town family, our bridal party and the couple of out of town college friends I want there we are well over 80 people...but she really wants me to invite "some of my family".... I just have no idea how to do this?
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  • Night_SpriteNight_Sprite
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    You could ask her how many people they can hold or how many she's thinking should be added.
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  • lilianne22lilianne22 member
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    Are you hosting the rehearsal dinner?  If so you can invite whomever you like.  I'd think doing it by group might be best.  Like all aunts and uncles but not cousins.   If you invite some aunts and uncles it would be rude to not invite others, but if you do it by groups it wouldn't be rude to invite all of them but none of your cousins. 


    If someone else is hosting your rehearsal dinner (Like your FIL's) then the guest list is up to them.

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  • stephasuasustephasuasu member
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    That one was a tough one for us too. We could have invited all the out of towners, but there was so many family in town that we were closer with that we didn't think it would be fair. If we invited all the out of towners and a few locals, then number would have been huge. We already had 31 with wedding party and their dates, and then our parents and grandparents. One way to help the situation is that we had our rehearsal dinner on Thursday night rather then a Friday. That way, most of our out of towners had not arrived yet. My grandmother then hosted a little get together on Friday night for our New York relatives. It worked out great.
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