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How many people were invited to your wedding?

someone just posted the have a 680 person guest list.   Holy shiit?  How the hell do you greet 680 people??

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Re: How many people were invited to your wedding?

  • That is insane. 

    I think our final count was 160-something, and we had 125 accept, which was exactly the number I wanted when we first started planning, haha.
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  • We had about 90 people we invited (knowing most wouldn't show).
    How many people RSVP'd yes? 60
    actually showed? 50
  • Like 80. 17 of them are coming to T&C.
    I don't think I've ever been friends with 680 people ever.
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  • We had a final count of about 44 attend.  The only time I've ever heard of a guest list that large, was with someone who is Indian and the entire surrounding area got invited to the house.
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    [QUOTE] I don't think I've ever been friends with 680 people ever.
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    This.
  • The only time I've heard of a guest list that large was on the real housewives of NJ.
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  • too many. we invited 310
  • We invited 220.  Thus far 37 are yes.  9 are no.
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    [QUOTE]Like 80. 17 of them are coming to T&C. I don't think I've ever been friends with 680 people ever.
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]


    Even if you break the list in half (DH's side and my side).  I could not think of that many people to invited.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • We invited a little over 300, and had about 275 for final count.  I wish it was a little smaller,but my parents had friends they wanted to invite, and its sort of their celebration too, so I wasn't going to tell them no.
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  • Our "dream" guest list would've been about 300.  We knocked it down to 184 invited, and 100 came.
  • Invited 22 (including +1's), 16 are attending.


    680 is insane. Though, I know in some cultures such massive weddings are the norm and it would be a slight not to invite absolutely everyone you have any sort of contact with (even if via a third party).
  • We also have LOTS of family.  Lots.  My dad has 31 first cousins who aren't all invited.
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  • Yeah, we invited 70 (plenty of courtesy invites), 40'ish RSVP'd yes, 30 showed. I'm still a bit pissed over a couple of the no-shows, even though I realize I should just let it go. But Dammit, we paid for those 10 people, and darling aunt, you knew in PLENTY of time that you weren't bringing your daughters with you, you could have exhibited some common courtesy and called to let me know so I could take them out of thte headcount and not have to pay for them, just because YOU changed your mind about spending that much time in the car with them.
  • We had an Armenian couple on the boat a few weeks ago. They had over 800 people.  

    I was rude and asked if they had a bar.  Yep, full open bar.  Can you imagine that bar tab?






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Wow!! I don't think I even know that many people! We had a little over 300 on our first list but that was with our parents lists which included people we didn't know. We ended up getting it down to around 200..

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  • We are inviting 160 but expect about 90 to come because most are OOT and a little older (thus may not want to travel from GA to NY for a friend's son's wedding). 
  • We invited just over 200, and about 160 showed.

    My H went to a huge wedding in India. He said that the couple literally sat on this podium for the whole day, and people just came in, greeted them in assembly-line fashion, and moved on to the buffet. Romantic, eh?
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  • Ours is going to be between 150-200.  I have to update it to reflect births and deaths and who we actually want to invite to Hawaii.  So it may realistically be closer to 100, many of which probably won't make it that far but come for the AHR.
  • My brother also went to a huge Indian wedding once, and he didn't even know the couple, but the bride was his friend's sister. So, chances are that the couple doesn't necessarily know everyone. They just tell their friends and family to invite all of THEIR friends.
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  • Ok, Prince WIlliam is the only person I need to hear about having that many guests. That is nothing but AW if you ask me and fun for no one involved really...
  • We invited 175 and had 100 come.

    The economy & the fact that DH moves a lot with the military meant that his side was a lot smaller than mine. It also would have helped if he had gotten his shiit together enough to actually send out STDs Undecided
  • We have a minimum 100 guests set by venue.  I plan on inviting about 120 people, with a couple of courtesy invites.  I'm not looking forward to the number of no-shows.  Probablity of at least 25% - 40% not showing is very high. 
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    [QUOTE]Ok, Prince WIlliam is the only person I need to hear about having that many guests. That is nothing but AW if you ask me and fun for no one involved really...
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

     I think in some social circles or cultures this is standard. I went to a 400 person wedding in Houston; the bride's father was pretty prominent in the community, so it was the kind of thing where lots of folks attended the cocktail reception at the country club. It's not really AW, not even that much fun for the couple IMO, more like an obligation to fulfill.
  • I think we ended up inviting 165, with 137 people showing up.  I think we had 8 no shows and 2 bonus party crashers (in a good way).
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    [QUOTE] My H went to a huge wedding in India. He said that the couple literally sat on this podium for the whole day, and people just came in, greeted them in assembly-line fashion, and moved on to the buffet. Romantic, eh?
    Posted by ring_pop[/QUOTE]

    Sounds like a blast.  Exactly what I should of done.  Instead I was on the dance floor most of the night.  Next wedding maybe.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • You didn't have my response in your poll.

    Eleventy-billion would have been my answer.

    And by eleventy billion, I mean.. 70.
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  • We invited around 85-90 people, around 80 or so showed up.
  • 158 invited, 87 attending.

    45% decline due to not inviting kids. 
  • We're hovering near 200, but FI hasn't added his co-workers and spouses to the list yet which will bring us to about 208.
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