Registry for down pmt on a home

TwoByTwilight

I read up elsewhere that a bride wants to start a registry to help pay for tuition and books since she and her fiance are both in school and can only afford to pay for either college or a wedding.

I told her that was just plain tacky and to choose either your education or a wedding right now.

Then another bride pointed out that there are registries for collecting money towards the down payment of your dream home.

My jaw hit the floor when I read that- so I was curious and googled it and there it is... http://www.downpaymentdreams.com/how-it-works.aspx

They have registries for everything and it's just gotten out of control. Yes I had a HM registry but it was for strawberries in our stateroom and a dinner with champagne (which was 25 dollars) in no way did anyone actually pay for my honeymoon.

If you can't afford something then wait until you can afford it.

redheadfsu

Yes... we see stuff like that posted here all the time too.

Honeymoon, home, and I have even seen couples create their own paypal donation link on their website. I even saw a knottie ask other knotties to donate to her paypal account, but that might have been a troll.

Check out the registry and gift page, I'm sure someone has asked about them recently.

Mrs.B6302007

OMG!  THat puppy is beyond adorable!

Caitlinmmk

What happens if after the wedding, she didn't get enough to pay for her tuition and books? It's just irresponsible to pick a wedding over your education. She could always JOP it if she just "has" to get married.

PinkRoseAcct

Thank God, I thought this would be another "Is it ok?" post.  

Simply Fated

I've heard of downpayment registries, I've seen them on the gifts and registry forum. I'm pretty conservative when it comes to registries. I still remember my mother telling me how tacky registries are, in general. And I couldn't have been older than 9 lol. As much as I hate some traditions, the basic registry isn't an outdated one, IMO.

hbatchel2

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-down-pmt-home?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ba62ab-5ce1-4501-adfc-9d3cf6d6172bPost:543e720f-8ce8-4a05-965f-7012ce53ad92">Registry for down pmt on a home</a>:
[QUOTE]I read up elsewhere that a <strong>bride wants to start a registry to help pay for tuition and books since she and her fiance are both in school and can only afford to pay for either college or a wedding.</strong> I told her that was just plain tacky and to choose either your education or a wedding right now. Then another bride pointed out that there are registries for collecting money towards the down payment of your dream home. My jaw hit the floor when I read that- so I was curious and googled it and there it is... <a href="http://www.downpaymentdreams.com/how-it-works.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://www.downpaymentdreams.com/how-it-works.aspx</a> They have registries for everything and it's just gotten out of control. Yes I had a HM registry but it was for strawberries in our stateroom and a dinner with champagne (which was 25 dollars) in no way did anyone actually pay for my honeymoon. If you can't afford something then wait until you can afford it.
Posted by TwoByTwilight[/QUOTE]

Offtopic, but thats just irresponsible and dumb IMO. My parents paid for college for me, but I got engaged the summer before my last year and was planning a wedding for the fall after I graduated. My parents told me they would pay for the whole wedding or my last year of school, but not both. I picked them paying for school and had a smaller, less fancy wedding. A wedding isn't something you should go into debt over or pick having over a degree.

Back on topic, I agree that down payment registries are extremely tacky, but I can't say it surprises me.

TwoByTwilight

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-down-pmt-home?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ba62ab-5ce1-4501-adfc-9d3cf6d6172bPost:e2986f44-1482-4f5f-8384-8e5f41c6eb75">Re: Registry for down pmt on a home</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Registry for down pmt on a home : <strong> Offtopic, but thats just irresponsible and dumb IMO</strong>. My parents paid for college for me, but I got engaged the summer before my last year and was planning a wedding for the fall after I graduated. My parents told me they would pay for the whole wedding or my last year of school, but not both. I picked them paying for school and had a smaller, less fancy wedding. A wedding isn't something you should go into debt over or pick having over a degree. Back on topic, I agree that down payment registries are extremely tacky, but I can't say it surprises me.
Posted by hbatchel2[/QUOTE]

Damnit, I forgot to add in that she had made the post in order for people to GIVE her money towards her tuition and books for college. Then that is when the other poster told her about down payment registries and other donation to everyday people sites.