Random question on terms NWR

Simply Fated

This has been brought up before and again today in a recent thread, so it got me thinking....

A few people on here don't like to be referred to as a "child" or one of their parents' "children."

What is the preferred alternative to the words "child" and "children?" Offspring? Spawn lol?

Calypso1977

ive heard people not liking children called "kids" but that seems odd.  an 80 year old is sitll their parents child.

misssunshine17

My parents will forever call us their kids.

For me, I personally didn't want to be called a child on my wedding invite, but that doesn't cross over to all things, just the invite.

itzMS

I think that poster was alright with being called "daughter" but not "child".

Personally, I've never found it offensive to be called the child of my parents. In my circle, even using "kids" is a term of endearment. As in, MIL calls up DH & I and says "Hi, Kids, how's it going?"

lyndausvi

IDK?  I don't mind being my parent's child.     I AM their child.  My siblings and I are their children.

s-aries8990

I think a lot of it depends on the context of the specific situation.

I understand not wanting the word "children/child" on a wedding invitation, as the bride and groom are (supposed to be) adults entering into a mature covenant, but I think "daughter" and "son" are fine.

A parent's offspring will always be THEIR child even though they may not be A child.

AddieCake

I don't mind being thought of as my parents' child. 

Peledreamsofrain

Spawn, definitely spawn

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[QUOTE]IDK?  I don't mind being my parent's child.     I AM their child.  My siblings and I are their children.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Me too. I can't find the thread, but I SWEAR I THINK I was told to put "of their children" on my invitation by someone here when I was finalizing my invitations. Then, after they were printed, another poster asked about it and I freaked out, because everyone was all "REMOVE OF THEIR CHILDREN, IT'S AWFUL" (that is hyperbole)</div><div>
</div><div>But at the end of the day, I thought about it, and I was like "no one in my circle is going to care what it actually says, AND, we ARE the children of our mothers, who are hosting." </div><div>
</div><div>In a perfect world, I could have removed "their children" and just had "of", but I don't know. I kind of like it. 

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lyndausvi

I think 'child' on an invite would be strange, but not 'children'.

For example if both parents are the hosts then

Mr and Mrs Fred Flintstone
Mr and Mrs Barne Rubble

invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children

Pebbles
and
Bam Bam

is fine.


However this would be weird

Mr and Mrs Fred Flintstone
invite you to the celebration of  the marriage of their child

Pebbles
to
Bam Bam Rubble
child of
Mr and Mrs Barney Rubble.

SB1512

I don't mind my parents referring to me as their child.  but they don't.  They call me their daughter because I am 30 years old and I don't live at home or depend on them anymore.  I have no problem with being referred to as daughter on a wedding invite, but a child, no.  Where is CMGR??  She is the one that first convinced me to get "of their children" off the original invite in the first place!

arrippa

I don't mind it because as I get older, there isn't much that will make me feel young.

bridalmarch

I don't mind it one bit. We used together with their parents, but I am my parent's child and always will be. It doesn't make me feel immature or less than at all. 

I only have sisters, so when we're all together my parents usually call us girls - ie "what do you girls want for dinner?" or "The girls are going shopping tonight" 

OliveOilsMom

While it would be weird to have child on a wedding invite, I don't mind be referred to as my parents child.  I am the youngest of 4, so when my mom sees a relative or friend who may not have seen me since I was a little kid, she introduces me as her baby, "And this is my baby, OliveOilsMom".  I have gotten very used to being called the baby, so if I hear child or children, its no big deal!

SB1512

I will add this.  If my parents call me Hey kid, or when talking to me and my sister, what do you kids want to eat, or what are you girls up to lately it doesn't bother me.  But, I guess I don't like when I am referred to as a kid or child to other people.  Although I'm almost 30, I look really young, and I'm really short/tiny so on a regular basis I am mistaken for a well dressed middle school kid.  It's frustrating.  Even some of FI's family, the first time they met me asked FI if we were legally allowed to be dating, and they were not joking!  So, as far as the wedding invites, I'd rather reinforce that I am adult by not having "of their children"

WalkersFurMama

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[QUOTE]I think 'child' on an invite would be strange, but not 'children'. For example if both parents are the hosts then Mr and Mrs Fred Flintstone Mr and Mrs Barne Rubble invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children Pebbles and Bam Bam is fine. However this would be weird Mr and Mrs Fred Flintstone invite you to the celebration of  the marriage of their child Pebbles to Bam Bam Rubble child of Mr and Mrs Barney Rubble.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This was my thought exactly. I have no idea how you'd word it otherwise in the first instance. 

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Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed.</div><div>
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</div><div>This isn't invite wording related, but I don't mind when people I know well call me my parents' kid, or child. Or, even my FH's parents/family. I'm okay with that. Now, the other day I was talking to my account manager at the bank... and he ended the phone call with, "Bye, kiddo." That was a little weird. I've never met this guy. We have only talked on the phone a handful of times. I do not know you, sir. You do not know me.... granted, then he did send a follow up email later with a form I had asked for and ended that with "Congratulations on your marriage and I hope you get to celebrate like the princess you are." (FTR, I don't want to be treated like a princess.. Sigh. Oh well!)</div>

TKzilla

Definitely chile or chirren.

Poor FI still gets referred to as "the baby" in his family. In my family, we (my brother and I) are "the kids" and our dogs are the "grandbabies" lol