Honeymoon gift preference wording

Janesse

My fiancé and I are trying to figure out a discreet way to tell our guests that we would prefer honeymoon contributions as gifts instead of purchasing items for our home.  Does anyone have suggestions on this?  Reason being is that after we are married, I plan on going back to school.  It's very likely that we will be moving right after the wedding (who wants more stuff to move?), and we plan on living like broke college students for a while.  Also, we have been living with eachother for the past 2+ years and have most of the necessary items already.  Of course, we will still register at one or two department stores so that people have options...

Any input is appreciated!

I guess it should be noted that we won't be putting this on our invitations, but rather our wedding website.

shellydiane820

Just don't register and do word of mouth.  It looks bad if you put something on the invite.

sucrets4

Give us cash, biitches?

mwhitson14

Word of mouth. Only. I don't even think it needs to go on a wedding website. Heck, I honestly don't think it even needs to be spread word of mouth, I don't tell people that I prefer getting my everyday dishes over the china, but sounds like you feel the need to say something.

squirrly

Word of mouth.

Janesse

So let's say that we don't put the preference wording anywhere on the website and just pass it along by word of mouth.  Is it still improper to list your registries on your website?

squirrly

If you absolutely have to list them somewhere, that's the only place.  But, I didn't and wouldnt recommend it.  Google is a great thing.

tortis

If you register at all, there will be a lot of people that will just buy off the registry, no matter where you put the info. For people I don't know really well (usually when we are invited to one of Fi's friends weddings), we usually either buy something off the registry or give them a gift card to that store. 

So... if you REALLY only want cash, I would skip registries altogether and tell your wedding party/ mom/ etc that if people ask to tell them that you are saving up for "x." People will normally get the hint.

Some people though, like my mom, will still like to give you a tangible gift.

JessAndTrav

While they're somewhat controversial here on (P&)E, you could to a HM registry or something.

If not, word of mouth. I'd skip putting it on the website.

Word of mouth works, too. We got our dishes from IKEA, and they don't have a registry, so we told our parents to spread the word for us, and we had several guests give us money or checks that said, "For your dishes" or something like that in the card.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If you do a registry do one and make it small. Otherwise, people won't know you don't want the stuff you register for. Some people, with a smaller registry, will take the hint. Or just say you're saving up for moving/honeymoon/grad school if asked.

mrsamyjones

I'd do word of mouth...say something like we're moving and it's gonna be difficult with all our stuff...yadayada people will get the hint that it's better to get you a gift card or cash. Don't come out and say, we'd like cash it's off putting and rude.

banana468

Ditto PPs that word of mouth on cash is the only way to go.  With that, if you don't want 'stuff' that also means you need to decline showers. 

However, seriously think about what you're doing.  If your family is into showers an giving wedding gifts, this is a great time to NOT live like a broke college student and once you're ready to stop living like a broke college student, you'd then have the items you turned down a few years back. 

flutgrl1

in my circle if you dont provide the guests w/ the registry info, don't expect anything from it:)

I would put your HM registry on your wedding website. Do not feel forced to register for upgraded items you do not have room for nor need nor want. Most people will give money anyway.