Invitations to the B-Listers?

chikychik13

My wedding is in 2 months and invitations are going out within next week.  I know that some are already RSVPing No and there are some people that are just aquaintances that would love to be a part of my day and I would like them to come if I have the space but of course they weren't originally invited.  So when I get a better count on whos in and whos out do I have to send these so called "b-listers" invitations?  I don't have any extras so I rather not, so do I just verbally invite them?

Stackeye210

You made your guest list and you stand by it.  No b-list.  It's rude, even if they requested it. 

Best wishes.

crash2729

You shouldn't have a B-list. It will probably lead to more hurt feelings than it's worth.

hoffse

You don't invite b-listers at all.  You invite your a-list only.  If they weren't important enough to be on the a-list, they aren't important enough to be there, and it will really offend them if they realize they were b-listed.

adamar15

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[QUOTE]My wedding is in 2 months and invitations are going out within next week.  I know that some are already RSVPing No and there are some people that are just aquaintances that would love to be a part of my day and I would like them to come if I have the space but of course they weren't originally invited.  So when I get a better count on whos in and whos out do I have to send these so called "b-listers" invitations?  I don't have any extras so I rather not, so do I just verbally invite them?
Posted by chikychik13[/QUOTE]

Don't do a B list.  It's rude.

KatWAG

You don't invite them. B listing is very rude. If they are "just acquaintances" why do you want them at your wedding anyway?

mkrupar

There's a reason you don't have any more invitations, you invited everyone you're going to invite. You don't send last minute invites to people just because someone else couldn't attend. How rude is that? Not to mention the fact that you've just told Great Aunt Jane that she's replaceable by my sort-of-acquaintance Timmy, or is his name Johnny?

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-to-the-b-listers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:892b89ac-1bc0-48f3-bb86-ce980f225246Post:08c32368-b3a2-40ee-b069-8002b797eff8">Re: Invitations to the B-Listers?</a>:
[QUOTE]You don't invite them. B listing is very rude. If they are "just acquaintances" why do you want them at your wedding anyway?
Posted by KatWAG[/QUOTE]

More presents.

Duh.

Summer2011Bride

No B list. And definitely don't give anyone just a "verbal invite" either.

Bkseller13

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[QUOTE]No B list. And definitely don't give anyone just a "verbal invite" either.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

Just send a "shout out" on facebook that anyone who wants to come should send you their address.  That's what my cousin did, so it must be ok.

Sigh.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitations to the B-Listers? : Just send a "shout out" on facebook that anyone who wants to come should send you their address.  That's what my cousin did, so it must be ok. Sigh.
Posted by Bkseller13[/QUOTE]

I know a girl that did that too on facebook, she ended up having something around 300 replies saying they'd be there...she ordered the food...yeah about 50 showed up.

*headdesk*

chikychik13

Thanks for the input. I figured since they asked it would be ok but I am guessing not! I had a friend that did that on facebook....I never would do that OMG. I just sent the ones private msgs for their addresses.