Inviting my boss?

abl13

We will be sending out invitations the week of April 1st, and I can't decide what to do about my boss. My department has 20 people, I only work closely with 4 and we never see each other outside of work, so I decided not to invite any of my co-workers. I also never talk about wedding details with them, so I don't think anyone will be heartbroken not to receive an invite. Because of this, I was also not going to invite my boss, but everyone I mention this to insists that I have to invite her. She has mentioned multiple times how much she loves weddings. I don't want her to feel awkward being the only person from work there, and I don't want to seem gift grabby by inviting her even though we don't talk very much about our personal lives. But I also don't want things to be awkward when I return to work because I didn't invite her. To make this decision harder my fiance is inviting almost everyone he works with because I used to work with him and still see all of those people on a regular basis. Help!

vanityink

If it makes you feel better, I didn't invite my boss (the only "work" people we're having are two of FI's friends whom we also see on regular basis outside the office). If you aren't comfortable inviting her, the don't.

harper0813

You aren't obligated to invite your boss, even if your FI is inviting his whole office. If your boss acts awkward, she is being unprofessional. You don't need to mix your work life and personal life and it seems like you haven't done so thus far, especially since you haven't discussed your wedding.

My FI is inviting three coworkers at his current office and I'm not planning on inviting anyone I work with, since our wedding is in another state, I only just started my job a few months ago and we don't have room for any more people except new SOs. My coworkers ask about wedding things here and there, but they know the wedding is in another state and do not expect an invite.

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FI invited his entire shift at work (he's a firefighter, so they do 24s together and are like an extended family). I invited three people at work I know well: one I eat lunch with every day, one I occasionally eat lunch with and often do activities outside of work, and one that I have worked with for 8 years and used to eat lunch with every day. None of these people are people I work directly with--they are actually in other departments. I'm not inviting a single person from my team nor my manager or boss. It's mostly about who YOU want there, not so much who you think WANTS to be there, or who you think you SHOULD invite.

fperez7542

You are not obligated.  I am a supervisor in a very small company.  I am inviting 3 managers, 2 coworkers, and our COO.  We go out often and they have been to my house also.  FI isn't inviting anyone from his job.  He is on the road a lot so he isn't close to any.

itzMS

Ditto PPs.

DH invited his bosses and several coworkers. They are very cordial and are friends outside of work. I invited no coworkers or bosses. My work environment is not condusive to friendships outside of work.

It's a case by case basis and is not an obligation. Continue to not bring up anything wedding-related at work, and try not to worry about it.

NOLAbridealmost

I wouldn't invite my boss. I'd only invite people from work (including the boss) if they're someone you'd have dinner or drinks with outside of work for fun anyway.

abl13

Thanks everyone! This is the answer I was leaning toward, but just needed to make sure I'm not completely out of line.

Loopyseven

I didn't invite anyone from my work.  H invited his boss and some of his employees and coworkers from his work.  Depends on your work relationships and if you want to see those people at your wedding.