WWED?

mica178

I used to never wear make-up.  When I was MOH, I probably owned one tube of lipstick and nothing else.  My friend told me that I should make an exception for her wedding so that I wouldn't look like a ghost in the wedding pictures.  So I agreed.  And I looked as well-defined as everyone else in the pictures.

I think that it's reasonable that you ask your WP to wear make-up, especially if you're offering to help her put it on.

andy71781

Fishy and I are soul sisters. 

crfische

It blows my mind that so many people think it's ok to mandate that your bridesmaids wear makeup.

BLOWS. MY. MIND.

crfische

I mean, we tell them that they shouldn't mandate shoes. They shouldn't mandate getting their hair done. In some cases, that the bridesmaids should even get to pick their dress.

But when it comes to their FACE, you want to mandate that people change what they are comfortable putting on their FACE?

It's like I don't even know you people.

LDYGTR13

I dont think it's a mandate, Fishy. More like a "pretty please? you'll look so pretty!"

Habs2Hart

Fische - CALM DOWN

louisvillebride21

WTF is it about not leaving the house without mascara? Most of my girlfriends are like that. Even if they aren't wearing a full face, they put on mascara. I only wear it if it's super fancy (and I wear makeup almost daily). But then again, my eyelashes touch my sunglasses when I do wear it, so maybe I just don't feel the need? I dunno, I don't get it.

xyrius

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[QUOTE]I mean, we tell them that they shouldn't mandate shoes. They shouldn't mandate getting their hair done. In some cases, that the bridesmaids should even get to pick their dress. But when it comes to their FACE, you want to mandate that people change what they are comfortable putting on their FACE? It's like I don't even know you people.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

a-men.

Habs2Hart

LVB - unless you have short little blonde eyelashes, which I highly doubt, then you have no say! 

Mascara makes all the difference in the world to my eyes.  I can go from looking half asleep to looking bright eyed with a swipe of the magic wand.  It's magic! 

crfische

PRETTY PLEASE IS THE SAME AS A MANDATE.

And it's insulting. And I would think you were an asshole if you said that to me and I'd probably cry.

LDYGTR13

Well, I would never tell someone they had to. I see your point, Fishface.

LVB, my eyelashes go DOWN. I look like Snuffaluphagus. I can see my eyelashes if I dont curl them and put mascara on. That's my personal reason for never leaving w/o mascara, don't know about other folk.

crfische

It'd be like saying, ya know what? You're not pretty enough. You have to put makeup on because you look like ass.

That just isn't ok.

I mean, if you want to make your bridesmaids cry it's all right, but if that isn't your goal, then I'd steer clear of that.

mandysmear

I would NEVER tell them to!  Ever.  I also don't wear make up.  Well, I do.  But, on the weekends. 

crfische

WHATEVER MANDY.

mica178

I've changed the bottle for the water cooler before.  That involved pouring 1/4 of the water on the floor and wall.  No one asked me to do it again.

I'm not saying that we should force BMs to do anything they were uncomfortable doing.  But encouraging and helping are good things too.  I was down with wearing make up for my friend's wedding, but I really didn't own any and didn't want to pay for it.  So she shared her stuff and had a cousin put it on me.  Ta da!  We were all happy.

mandysmear

WHATEVER FISHY.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]I've changed the bottle for the water cooler before.  That involved pouring 1/4 of the water on the floor and wall.  No one asked me to do it again. I'm not saying that we should force BMs to do anything they were uncomfortable doing.  But encouraging and helping are good things too.  I was down with wearing make up for my friend's wedding, but I really didn't own any and didn't want to pay for it.  So she shared her stuff and had a cousin put it on me.  Ta da!  We were all happy.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

That's the other thing, is she's trying to pay for her own wedding that's in 10 months, and so I wonder if part of it is the money.  I have Clinique bonus samples of pretty much everything that I could just give her, sans some kind of foundation/powder for sensitive skin/her skintone that I don't mind buying for her if it really is money and she just doesn't want to say.

Gah, I hate that I care about this.  Let it go........

crfische

Dude. VEggie. Let it go.

So what if it is money? That's her choice.

But I'm guessing that if she doesn't normally wear makeup, she'll feel uncomfortable in makeup.

It's that simple.

Let it go, homeslice. Let it go.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I have lots of friends who don't wear makeup, so it wouldn't bother me. I mean, I don't really care how they want to look. I'll wear makeup because that's what I want for pictures, etc.

I know you don't think this and wouldn't do this, but to me it's almost like telling a BM they have to lose 10 pound for pictures, or get contacts when they're more comfortable in glasses, like they're props. I assure you I didn't care how ANYONE looked in our pictures aside from myself. /self-absorbed, party of one.

jsleik

My MOH doesn't ever wear make up.  Sometimes on Halloween, she'll let me do hers if she wants to be a princess or something like that.  So for my wedding, I'm figuring that she won't have any on unless she asks me to do it beforehand.  Which I'll happily do.  But if she doesn't, I won't worry about.  The good news is with friends like that - they usually have gorgeous skin and beautiful coloring (like my MOH), so no one notices.  Have a little extra mascara and lip gloss on hand in case she has a last-minute change of heart.  I think since it irks you that it irks you, you almost have it out of your system.  :-)

sarah0725

My sister is my MOH, and she has never worn makeup, and she is very touchy about this. So touchy, in fact, that I think if I mandated makeup for her, she would smother me in my sleep rather than wear it.

So I kind of think makeup should never be mandated.