Should I scrap my registry?

colky

My FI and I don't need anything. We honestly don't even want anything. This is the first marriage for both, but we both have good jobs and are in our 30s, so we have been fortunate to already purchase those things for our home that matter to us. 
We do have a fantastic honeymoon registry. Best. Idea. Ever. It has a large amount of items in a variety of prices.
But everyone, well, the MOH, keeps "insisting" that we need another registry for stuff. So I made one on Amazon. But it only has, like, six things on it. Is that too lame? Should I just stick with the honeymoon registry? 
I'm loathe to put together a list of things I don't want or need. I fully understand that some people will buy us gifts. That's cool. They can do whatever they want and I will graciously accept. But then I'll probably return it, in all honesty.  
I'm also getting criticized because I'm not registering in a store where people can walk in and buy something.  
I should also mention that we have about 200 guests. 
Thoughts?

colky

Sucrets, I never said I would register just to return. My quandry is, in fact, the opposite. Since I will not do that, I don't have enough things to register for. Judge me all you like, but being judgmental goes a lot further when you gets your facts straight first. Otherwise you just look like someone who has nothing better to do with their life than post on message boards all day.

mocha beans

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[QUOTE]My FI and I don't need anything. We honestly don't even want anything. This is the first marriage for both, but we both have good jobs and are in our 30s, so we have been fortunate to already purchase those things for our home that matter to us.  We do have a fantastic honeymoon registry. Best. Idea. Ever. It has a large amount of items in a variety of prices. But everyone, well, the MOH, keeps "insisting" that we need another registry for stuff. So I made one on Amazon. But it only has, like, six things on it. Is that too lame? Should I just stick with the honeymoon registry?  I'm loathe to put together a list of things I don't want or need. I fully understand that some people will buy us gifts. That's cool.<strong> They can do whatever they want and I will graciously accept. But then I'll probably return it, in all honesty</strong>.   I'm also getting criticized because I'm not registering in a store where people can walk in and buy something.   I should also mention that we have about 200 guests.  Thoughts?
Posted by colky[/QUOTE]

This sounds like you did say you will return gifts.  Just sayin'.

colky

Not gifts I register for, which is what sucrets was saying.

danieliza1127

I just want to point out too that IS okay to just not register at all.  If it's that difficult for you and it's only one person telling you that you should register, then just don't do it and hope that you either like what you get or can return it.

colky

Thank you Danieliza. That's my issue. I don;t know if it would better to have a dinky one, or just to junk it altogether.

ohwhynot

FWIW, having only 6 items on a registry, with a guest list that has 200 people on it is basically the same as having nothing.  In fact, I think it's worse, because if people know you're registered, they'll want to look at your registry, only to see that the 6 things on it are already gone.  Then they'll have wasted their time and will be more annoyed than if you didn't have one. 

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]Sucrets, I never said I would register just to return. My quandry is, in fact, the opposite. Since I will not do that, I don't have enough things to register for. Judge me all you like, but being judgmental goes a lot further when you gets your facts straight first. Otherwise you just look like someone who has nothing better to do with their life than post on message boards all day. :)
Posted by colky[/QUOTE]

Okay, so you said that you'd return gifts that you received, as mocha pointed out (thanks, mocha!).  But you didn't make it so clear in your original post, so don't be telling me that I didn't get my facts straight.  I go off of what you write, and that left details out.

Good luck returning things without a receipt!!!!!

I do agree with Dani that you don't have to have one, but maybe your MOH knows something that you don't and has heard people talk about how they wish you had a registry.  She might be trying to save you from annoying your guests.

PS - It took me awhile to get back to you because I was working.  You know, that job thing?

PPS - Honeymoon registries are lame.  You know all that "buy a romantic dinner for 2!" just turns into a check at the end, right?  So they're really just a disguise for giving you cash.

vallyhoo

I'm disappointed my use of the JIC-quote was not necessary.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]Thank you Danieliza. That's my issue. I don;t know if it would better to have a dinky one, or just to junk it altogether.
Posted by colky[/QUOTE]

I think it would be better to junk it all together if you can only come up with 6 items for a 200 person guest list. 

colky

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Should I scrap my registry? : Okay, so you said that you'd return gifts that you received, as mocha pointed out (thanks, mocha!).  But you didn't make it so clear in your original post, so don't be telling me that I didn't get my facts straight.  I go off of what you write, and that left details out.[/quote]

The whole point was that I wasn't registered for many things. And that sentence came after a speil about how I know people will give me whatever they want in lieu of registered things. So sorry your powers of deduction weren't up to the task. I will try to be clearer in the future.

[quote]Good luck returning things without a receipt!!!!! [/quote]

I agree this will be a challenge. Thankfully, most of my fmily and friend always include the gift receipt in other gift-giving occasions, just in case. we are just-in-case people.

[quote]PS - It took me awhile to get back to you because I was working.  You know, that job thing? [/quote]

Umm, okay? I never said a word about tardiness. "That job thing" is the reason I only visit the boards on special occasions. Wow.

[quote]PPS - Honeymoon registries are lame.  You know all that "buy a romantic dinner for 2!" just turns into a check at the end, right?  So they're really just a disguise for giving you cash.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

Yes, I know. People have to trust me to spend it how I promised. Good thing I'm pretty trustworthy. :) I LOVED writing up all the descriptions and giving people the chance to sponsor the parts of our honeymoon that they appreciate and want to encourage.

Thank you to all who actually gave input about the scrapping the registry or not. In the end, I decided to keep the HM registry, scrap the amazon one, and go with a brick and mortar store as well. It'll be a smaller registry, but hopefully it will give people some options.