I just wanted to check to see if there is any right/wrong answer to an issue that has come up between a friend and I. This friend is getting married in a few weeks and my husband and I are in the bridal party. The wedding is at an Inn, which is located about 5 minutes from my home. We just assumed we would be going home after the wedding (to save money and so that out of town guests could have the rooms at the inn). The bride found out and freaked out. Apparently she had set a room aside for us (without telling us, we would still be paying for it) and says that when a close friend gets married staying at their hotel is "what you do". Is this true, especially if you are in the bridal party? My husband and I had a very low-key backyard wedding so I was never faced with any of these issues. I would love any input on this, as the friend seems really hurt that we didn't know of this piece of potentional ettiquette.