I have a dilemma. When someone found out about my engagement, she said, in a jokey tone, "well I had better be invited!" and I totally flaked and said something like, "don't worry!" Because I wasn't prepared for this. So far, no one had said anything like this who wasn't obviously going to be invited. We did meet freshman year, but in 4.5 years, we have had two classes together and hung out outside of class maybe 5 times. And at least three of these times were for a class assignment. Now, my guest list is already HUGE (nearing 300-yikes!) and she will not know anyone except me. We aren’t close. The wedding will be at least five months after graduation, and right now my guilt-inducing plan is to not invite her...and hope she doesn’t notice. Five months is a long time in which to lose contact. Right? I think it’s too late to use the “small, personal, family only” excuse. Especially since that’s a flat out lie. Or to vaguely say I don’t have the list nailed down yet. Because, even if I hadn’t stupidly, said not to worry, that wouldn’t deter her. She just doesn’t pick up on those kinds of social clues. Does anyone have any experience with this? Any ideas on what I can do?