Addressing soon-to-be-wed couples

lisabeats

I always have more etiquette questions!

We have good friends who are getting married about 4 weeks before our wedding. When our invitations go out, they'll be a Mr. and Ms. separately living at the same address. But by the time my wedding arrives, they'll be a Mr. and Mrs. I believe I'm still supposed to address the invite to them separately, and then after they're married I can have their escort cards/notes/etc addressed to them as a married couple, correct? I'm probably over thinking this because the couple probably won't care either way...

Calypso1977

if the invite goes to them as singles, use their current names on the invites.  if tehy will be married by the time the wedding comes around, then use their married names on the wedding day stuff.  could be she's not even changing her name so it could be a moot point!

AJuliaNJ

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[QUOTE]I always have more etiquette questions! We have good friends who are getting married about 4 weeks before our wedding. When our invitations go out, they'll be a Mr. and Ms. separately living at the same address. But by the time my wedding arrives, they'll be a Mr. and Mrs. I believe I'm still supposed to address the invite to them separately, and then after they're married I can have their escort cards/notes/etc addressed to them as a married couple, correct? I'm probably over thinking this because the couple probably won't care either way...
Posted by lisabeats[/QUOTE]

<div>That sounds right to me! Just because you use one name on the invitation doesn't mean you are stuck with it for the escort cards. You are going to have to make changes anyway from "guest" to actual names.</div>

Belle0720

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[QUOTE]if the invite goes to them as singles, use their current names on the invites.  if tehy will be married by the time the wedding comes around, then use their married names on the wedding day stuff.  could be she's not even changing her name so it could be a moot point!
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

This. My FSIL has started addressing things to me as Kristen HisLastName already and it feels especially weird to me because I'm not changing my last name.

vanityink

Just from personal experience, we (FI and I) have gotten two seperate invites for weddings happening after ours so far (heading into wedding season it seems). Both of them wer addressed to Future Mr. and Mrs. FILatName. I found it rather cute, but then again one friend knew I was changing my name (we're really close) and ther other bride spoke with FI first to check if I was changing my name before she sent the invites out. So you can take that with a grain of salt

brielleinlove

I would just use the names they use currently.  I'm just over a month away from my wedding and I'd be weirded out if I got something in the mail addressed to Mr. & Mrs. HisLastName - and I am changing my name!