This is going to be a tough one... We decided on an adults only wedding - we are allowing the flower girl and ring bearer to be at the reception, of course. We have out of town guests on my side of the family who already received 'save the dates' with their children's names on them (Ages 21,18,12,11) - two are adults - but we let the 11 and 12 year old attend too because they are traveling half of the way across the county with their siblings, and parents who are invited because they are adults. Here is where the tough part comes in. My fiances family has children ages 3,4,7,9,12,14,15,16. They are not invited , this is because they are not well behaved (the 3 and 7 year old are because they're in the bridal party). How do we explain this to the parents of the uninvited children. My fiance already told one of the aunts who assumed the children were invited, and she was very upset. I am sure I am going to get the cold shoulder when they see an 11 and 12 year old at the reception.
Any advice?