too late to add a guest?

amberr110

FMIL has decided - yesterday - that she regrets not inviting her boss (and guest) to the wedding.  Invites went out 1/20.  I have no problem with adding another person, but will it look completely rude to invite her now?  (RSVP date is 3/5).  TIA for any advice.

Simply Fated

I'd say no. I mean, he is an afterthought and he'll probably know it once he sees the RSVP date.

whitsy

6-8 weeks before the wedding is the norm to send out invites so I think you could get away with it.

kcscejal

As long as the boss doesn't know anyone that has received an invitation if it went out ASAP I don't think it'd be a big deal.  They're usually sent at 6-8 weeks before the wedding, and you're still in that range.

amberr110

She wouldn't know other people already got invites unless FMIL told her.  I've never met the boss and she shouldn't know anyone else at the wedding besides FILs.  I think I will send it out tomorrow and make that the cut off.  If anyone wants to add anyone else, it is just too late after this point.  Thanks!

LesPaul

I would.  You're still 4 weeks out.  My invitations didn't all get in the mail on the same day, and I thought of a few people I wanted to add as RSVPs came in.  As long as you have room, no big deal.

whitsy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_too-late-to-add-a-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8be184f3-11c4-48de-a7cd-05f32deb1049Post:f45cd40a-cb73-40ce-a643-b62ef0e473fc">Re: too late to add a guest?</a>:
[QUOTE]She wouldn't know other people already got invites unless FMIL told her. <strong> I've never met the boss and she shouldn't know anyone else at the wedding besides FILs</strong>.  I think I will send it out tomorrow and make that the cut off.  If anyone wants to add anyone else, it is just too late after this point.  Thanks!
Posted by amberr110[/QUOTE]

That's so weird then to me that FMIL would even want the boss invited. I don't get that.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: too late to add a guest? : That's so weird then to me that FMIL would even want the boss invited. I don't get that.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]
One of the arguments my PFMIL had with my bf's brother and SIL is that they deigned to put her bosses and their wives at some corner table all the way in the back. SIL had never met them and my bf's brother met them a couple of times when he was really little 920 years earlier). I really think parents lose sight of what a wedding is really about. To them it's about, like, bragging rights or something.

amberr110

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_too-late-to-add-a-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8be184f3-11c4-48de-a7cd-05f32deb1049Post:84b181ec-eb29-452c-b740-1a9886700773">Re: too late to add a guest?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: too late to add a guest? : One of the arguments my PFMIL had with my bf's brother and SIL is that they deigned to put her bosses and their wives at some corner table all the way in the back. SIL had never met them and my bf's brother met them a couple of times when he was really little 920 years earlier). I really think parents lose sight of what a wedding is really about. To them it's about, like, bragging rights or something.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

I think it has something to do with the fact that my mom's boss, who she has worked for for over 15 years and is practically like an uncle to me, is invited.  Idk, I think its a bit of a competitive thing between the mothers.  This is one of those issues that (as long as its not rude to do so) I'd rather just make FMIL happy and not have to argue about it.

tenofcups4me

The RSVP date is still about a month from now so I doubt she'd even blink an eye at the timing.