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jlw1492

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WhatawagSBNy

She should wear whatever she feels looks good on her.

There is no reason she should or should not match the bridesmaids,  though   I think at least a different shade makes her stand out more in pictures.

nda_roxybabe

Why do I feel like you're avoiding my question....

What are your colors?

tortis

I still am struggling to see how her wanting to wear what YOU picked out as your wedding colors is her trying  too hard. She wants to make you happy on your wedding day by conforming to the color YOU picked. She just wants you to be happy. LET.IT.GO. Its a color. You really need to  look at this for what it is- you have a fmil who wants to let you control what she wears for that day and who wants to let it be about you. 

You may think that her wanting to wear the same color dress is her "trying too hard," but really, she is recognizing that you picked a color for your bridal party and wants to be a part of it. Get over yourself. She's trying. 

squirrly

Just for arguement's sake - traditionally, the MOB was to select her dress first, in a non-wedding, but complimentary color.  The MOG was then to select a dress of equal formality, the same length, and same style of sleeves - in beige. 

Personally, I think that's crap, but there are still some people around here who go by that.  My grandmother is NOT happy that FI's mom bought a dress and my mom hasn't yet.  Speaking of. . . I probably need to see if she needs me to take her shopping (can't drive up here).

tortis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_mother-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8d7f2b8d-eb88-4591-91c3-a519d8d36034Post:dc0a0ba1-ac7d-4c57-a315-ad42cd955888">Re: Mother In Laws....</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother In Laws.... : Watch, it's probably black. I would laugh my freaking arse off if it is.
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

<div>That's what I was thinking too. </div>

nda_roxybabe

Cs- thats what I'm thinking! or pink...
Now if its orange and teal I'm going to think its a little odd that thats what fmil wants to wear...

mags0607

My mom thought she was supposed to match the colors of my bridal party. I told her she was more than welcome to, but she could wear whatever color she wanted. Then she said she was glad that she didn't have to wear the colors I chose because she thought black was an awful color for a wedding, and that ivory washed people out, and that she thought I should re-choose a royal blue.  Thanks mom. She means well but has no censor, and will be wearing royal blue to my wedding

Point: she might be trying to please you. If the worst thing you have is a mother in law who wants to "try too hard" to fit in, then you don't have too big of a problem.

nda_roxybabe

Ahh, ok. Did she pick champagne? Because I think that tends to be a popular color for MOB & MOG's.

nda_roxybabe

Burnt orange is a different choice for a MOG dress but oh well. Maybe she though it would be best. Don't over think it

jnish

I could see how you might think its in poor taste, its kind of along the lines of someone other than the bride wearing a white dress to a wedding. Before anyone starts to get upset with me remember I said kind of  If she just happened to find a dress that she liked that was is that particular color I think you should just let her wear it. I dont know if there is a nice way to tell her not to wear that color, depending on the type of relationship you two have she may get offended.

jnish

one more thing; since you said she is opinionated you could always say that you're worried that she is just going to blend in with the bridesmaids when it comes to the pics and would rather she be more distinctive than the bridesmaids because it is a special day for her as well, you know since she is the grooms mom and all .. . . . . . . .

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

They can wear whatever they want, but I think its weird when they match the WP. Too matchy/cutesy.

I don't know if anyone else brought this up, but the plural of Mother in Law is Mothers in Law. 

tenofcups4me

People have all different kinds of traditions that they usually think are the "norm." In my family and among many of my friends, the mothers wear either the same color as the BMs or a color that's close. So do the grandmothers.

My guess is it's similar in your FMIL's circle, but obviously not yours. I wouldn't read too much into it. And in any case, it's done, right? She already bought the dress, so it doesn't really matter if she's right or wrong since that's what she's wearing.

dianenjnj

you can't tell her what to wear...but you could tell her she needn't match the bridesmaids....hint, hint.