help

spowell123225

 invited my friend and her boyfriend to the wedding. I never met him,  however our budget is getting kind of tight, so he may not be invited how do I tell her this invited my friend and her boyfriend to the wedding. I never met him,  however our budget is getting kind of tight, so he may not be invited how do I tell her this. My wedding is 9/1/2012 i invited him in the begining because we were having having a big party but plans have changed and we are having a more formal sit down dinner. My fiance and I are mving soon after the wedding.

aragx6

All significant others must be invited. You have to invite him.

Meegles4

SOs are always included, but more importantly, if you already invited this person, you can't really rescind your invitation.

spowell123225

no all the time, I've been to several weddings where my fiance was not invited, if people cant afford it they just cant.

midgetthemighty

Well they should be invited all the time. Doesn't mean people do the right thing 100% of the time. Please do the right thing.

button6004

I cant imagine that 1 person is going to break the bank.  Just because you are moving after your wedding doesnt make it okay for you to uninvite someone.  How would you feel if you were the one uninvited?  Its rude to not invite a SO, but it is so much worse to me to rescind the invitation already extended.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Dude, if you've already invited him, you're on the hook for him attending your wedding.  At this point you gotta just bite the bullet and let him come.

Besides, one person is not going to send you dramatically over budget. 

My eyes are rolling so hard.  For real, they smushed through my brain and are now trying to bore two holes out the back of my head.

aragx6

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-41?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8f214b5b-0377-40d7-baaf-da178a1cf442Post:cd105d08-e697-4b92-83e4-584208dfa431">Re: help</a>:
[QUOTE]no all the time, I've been to several weddings where my fiance was not invited, if people cant afford it they just cant.
Posted by spowell123225[/QUOTE]

Then you have rude friends and family. If you can't afford to invite one half of a couple then you can't invite either of them.

pkontk

Other peoples' rudeness towards you and your FI should not play into your wedding related decisions.  You are ultimately punishing your friend for someone else's behavior if you are using that to justify UN-INVITING her boyfriend.  If you decide to go this route, rest assured she probably won't come either.

jjswin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-41?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8f214b5b-0377-40d7-baaf-da178a1cf442Post:c4989caa-e11a-4de0-a435-b4a830f526a7">Re: help</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help : Then you have rude friends and family. If you can't afford to invite one half of a couple then you can't invite either of them.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I'm with you!