Second Wedding Etiquette-Children

MyFirefightersPrincess

Between us, we have 8 children who are a HUGE part of our lives/relationship, and rightfully so; they are our children. It is important to me that they ALL be a part of our special day, but at the risk of sounding terrible, I don't want them in the WP. I want them to each have their own special job (perhaps readings, etc.), but I want our adult friends in the WP. (None of ours will be young enough to be RB or FG so we don't have to worry about hurt feelings there.) 

I've looked at the sand ceremony and I've seen a family unity candle ceremony, and I'm not completely sold on either idea incorporating all the kids. I like it, but I'm on the fence. I'd rather ask each of them to be a special part of our day by doing something special for the wedding, but not sure exactly what and I don't want to hurt any of their feelings by making one think they have a "more special" job than another. 

Is there anything etiquette-wise that I should be aware of?? Does anyone have any suggestions/ideas on how to incorporate them each in a special way?? (Currently, our children range in age from 3-16.) Thanks in advance for your great advice. I look forward to seeing what others have to add. 

ceceibson

I'm just not a big fan of those sand or other family ceremonies.  Our kids weren't getting married, we were.

Together, DH and I have 12 children and grandchildren, ages 2 to 41.  My daughter was my maid of honor and my son walked me down the aisle.  DH's son would have been his best man, but he died unexpectedly about 6 months before our August wedding, so DH's brother stepped in as Best Man.

We had DH's kids and grandkids walk ahead of him, then mine with me.  When we were all gathered at the altar, the celebrant said "who gives these people to be married?"  Our kids and grandkids said, "we do", then they all say down [in reserved seats in the front rows].  

That incorporated the blending of these two families without making the kids part of the vow-making/ceremony.

We didn't have any readings, etc.  We did have memorial flowers brought to the altar before we all came out, but we had 2 girls who are family friends do that.  There are so many of us, there weren't enough "jobs" for everyone.

s-aries8990

Include them in the processional, have the older ones do a reading if they want. Are you Catholic and having a mass? The elemtary agers (7-12) could bring the communion/wine to the altar. I don't think that they should be included in the vows or ceremony, but maybe mention not only being faithful to eachother, but faithful to the family? and RB/FG can be any age.

Ask what they want to participate in.

NO2012

DH has 2 kids ages 6 and 9 and I wasn't a big fan of the sand ceremony or the unity candle. They were listed in the program as part of the Children's Party along with the other FG and RBs, and all of the children processed down the aisle together. When it came time for the vows, the children came forward and stood beside us as we made them. Then they went back to their seats. Also, we are Catholic and went it came time for Communion, the children came forward to the altar again and the four of us received Communion together before everyone else was served. This was sufficient and meaningful involvement to us, and to the kids, as they were recognized as special during the ceremony, and it was symbolic of us becoming a family, without it being forced or hokey. Also, at the conclusion of the ceremony Mass, the priest gave his final blessing and blessed the four of us a family. He made the same mention during his blessing before dinner at the reception. I know you may not be having a religious ceremony, but you could incorporate these ideas in your own way.

NO2012

In Response to Re:Second Wedding EtiquetteChildren:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding EtiquetteChildren:Include them in the processional, have the older ones do a reading if they want. Are you Catholic and having a mass? The elemtary agers 712 could bring the communion/wine to the altar. I don't think that they should be included in the vows or ceremony, but maybe mention not only being faithful to eachother, but faithful to the family? and RB/FG can be any age. Ask what they want to participate in.Posted by sydariesIf this is a second marriage for both, and they are having a Catholic mass, I would wonder, did they get an annulment?nbsp;nbsp; Did they represent that the first marriage was not as important?nbsp; Meaningless?nbsp; Fraudelent?nbsp;nbsp; Do they wonder how the kids might view that?nbsp;nbsp; Regardless of Catholic or not, if the other parent of the children is still in the picture, I think they should be cognizant of that. Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

What?!?!

stantokm

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding Etiquette-Children : If this is a second marriage for both, and they are having a Catholic mass, I would wonder, did they get an annulment?   Did they represent that the first marriage was not as important?  Meaningless?  Fraudelent?   Do they wonder how the kids might view that?   Regardless of Catholic or not, if the other parent of the children is still in the picture, I think they should be cognizant of that.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

Wow...the OP never said that she was Catholic or that they were having a religious ceremony.  I'd wait on these points until you know more information--or if she ASKS about this since your response has NOTHING to do with what she posted.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Second Wedding EtiquetteChildren: What?!?!
Posted by NO2012[/QUOTE]

Ignore NYU. She's just a regular troll - likes to stir up drama and then talk about how right she is and the rest of the world is wrong.

For my dad's 2nd marriage, I got to walk him down the aisle (I was probably 8 or 9 at the time) and then I sat in the front row with my grandma. That said, my father only has two kids and my brother was still a toddler at the time and did not attend the wedding.

With having 8 children, I think it will be hard to include them all with meaningful tasks (readings, etc.) without dragging out the ceremony and making it uncomfortably long for guests. How about honoring them by having them in the processional and giving corsages or small bouquets to the daughters and bouts to the sons? Have them seated in the first or second row with their grandparents (assuming the parents of the bride and groom are still living). Leave them out of the vows, etc. - it is the bride and groom getting married, not the children.

OliveOilsMom

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding Etiquette-Children : If this is a second marriage for both, and they are having a Catholic mass, I would wonder, did they get an annulment?   Did they represent that the first marriage was not as important?  Meaningless?  Fraudelent?   Do they wonder how the kids might view that?   Regardless of Catholic or not, if the other parent of the children is still in the picture, I think they should be cognizant of that.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

All of what you just wrote has nothing to do with what the OP asked.  IF she is Catholic or her FI is Catholic, it is for them to figure out any sort of annulment process.  Besides, the kids do not have to be drug into any annulment process that may or may not have taken place!  Why are you stirring the pot?  Oh, that's right, its what you do around here.

[Deleted User]

I like the one poster who suggested, who gives this couple and all the kids can say "we do" it shows that they accept this marriage.

Here's an idea...for your bouquet  just walk in with 4 roses, then have each of the kids present you with a single rose either as your walking down the isle or when you get to the alter so you'll have a dozen roses & a full bouquet. You can add an premade ribbon wrap to it to hold it nicely together.

s-aries8990

NYU just hates me.

I like the boquet idea from Erikan! and the corsage/bout idea from Kelly.

Include them if they want to be though, if any of them are shy they may not want to participate me.

Kate61487

definitely don't try to include 8 separate readings/songs.  and how is a 3yo too old to be a FG?  I can see not wanting to make any of them in the WP if you're not going to have them all, but that part confused me.

I really like the idea of the kids "giving you away" that PP mentioned.  and having them in the processional could also make them feel special, and/or giving them bouts/corsages.  Or you could play 'we are family' and have them all join you on the dance floor to open it up?  Maybe write each of them a note that they receive the morning of the wedding telling them how much you love them / how excited you are to join their family?  I would just try to find a balance between including them and keeping the day/ceremony about the two of you.

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]I'm just not a big fan of those sand or other family ceremonies.  Our kids weren't getting married, we were. Together, DH and I have 12 children and grandchildren, ages 2 to 41.  My daughter was my maid of honor and my son walked me down the aisle.  DH's son would have been his best man, but he died unexpectedly about 6 months before our August wedding, so DH's brother stepped in as Best Man. We had DH's kids and grandkids walk ahead of him, then mine with me.  When we were all gathered at the altar, the celebrant said "who gives these people to be married?"  Our kids and grandkids said, "we do", then they all say down [in reserved seats in the front rows].   That incorporated the blending of these two families without making the kids part of the vow-making/ceremony. We didn't have any readings, etc.  We did have memorial flowers brought to the altar before we all came out, but we had 2 girls who are family friends do that.  There are so many of us, there weren't enough "jobs" for everyone.
Posted by ceceibson[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I completely agree with the 'we're getting married, not them' stance. That's why I want them involved a little, but not making it a family affair-if that makes sense. </div><div>
</div><div>I love how you had them walk down ahead of you both. That's really neat, and I really like that idea. We may try that and that'd solve my problem. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> Thanks!</div>

itzMS

I'm of the opinion that processing in and wearing some nice clothes (maybe a corsage/boutinniere, too) is special enough for the kids.

With that age range, I'm sure it would be incredibly difficult to find a universal way to include everyone that the teenagers didn't think was "baby-ish" that still was simple enough for the younger ones.

Your best bet might be to get each child an individualized gift (who doesn't like presents?!?!) and call it a day.

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding Etiquette-Children : If this is a second marriage for both, and they are having a Catholic mass, I would wonder, did they get an annulment?   Did they represent that the first marriage was not as important?  Meaningless?  Fraudelent?   Do they wonder how the kids might view that?   Regardless of Catholic or not, if the other parent of the children is still in the picture, I think they should be cognizant of that.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I was raised Catholic and my previous marriage has been anulled. (My ex decided he is a bi-sexual and that put him in a predicament with the church anyway.) Our children have relationships with their other parent, even if they aren't the greatest relationships.</div><div>
</div><div>Really, this is between my bf and me, and I couldn't care less what our exes think. If they put our children in the middle of this, that is their error and we will deal with that if it should arise. We have not put our children in a weird position concerning the other parent and their bf/gf, wedding plans, etc. Our kids are extremely excited at the idea of us getting married and keep asking when it's going to happen, although we keep telling them it will happen when it's time. </div><div>
</div><div>I do want to make the kids feel a part of things and not left out, that's why I want to incorporate them somehow, just not in a gigantic way, as it's our marriage, not theirs.</div>

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Second Wedding EtiquetteChildren : Ignore NYU. She's just a regular troll - likes to stir up drama and then talk about how right she is and the rest of the world is wrong. For my dad's 2nd marriage, I got to walk him down the aisle (I was probably 8 or 9 at the time) and then I sat in the front row with my grandma. That said, my father only has two kids and my brother was still a toddler at the time and did not attend the wedding. With having 8 children, I think it will be hard to include them all with meaningful tasks (readings, etc.) without dragging out the ceremony and making it uncomfortably long for guests. How about honoring them by having them in the processional and giving corsages or small bouquets to the daughters and bouts to the sons? Have them seated in the first or second row with their grandparents (assuming the parents of the bride and groom are still living). Leave them out of the vows, etc. - it is the bride and groom getting married, not the children.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Thanks! I like the idea of giving them small bouquets and boutonnieres and the procession. </div><div>
</div><div>I was really nervous how this would go over and didn't want to seem like 'It's MY day and it's all about me', but I don't want them in the WP either. I guess, I didn't want to come across as a mean, nasty person, because I want them to be happy with things and know that they are a huge part of our lives, but that this is a committment between us, not them. I'm glad I didn't come across like that and others understand and support how I feel. Thanks again!</div>

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Second Wedding EtiquetteChildren : Ignore NYU. She's just a regular troll - likes to stir up drama and then talk about how right she is and the rest of the world is wrong. For my dad's 2nd marriage, I got to walk him down the aisle (I was probably 8 or 9 at the time) and then I sat in the front row with my grandma. That said, my father only has two kids and my brother was still a toddler at the time and did not attend the wedding. With having 8 children, I think it will be hard to include them all with meaningful tasks (readings, etc.) without dragging out the ceremony and making it uncomfortably long for guests. How about honoring them by having them in the processional and giving corsages or small bouquets to the daughters and bouts to the sons? Have them seated in the first or second row with their grandparents (assuming the parents of the bride and groom are still living). Leave them out of the vows, etc. - it is the bride and groom getting married, not the children.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]definitely don't try to include 8 separate readings/songs.  and how is a 3yo too old to be a FG?  I can see not wanting to make any of them in the WP if you're not going to have them all, but that part confused me. I really like the idea of the kids "giving you away" that PP mentioned.  and having them in the processional could also make them feel special, and/or giving them bouts/corsages.  Or you could play 'we are family' and have them all join you on the dance floor to open it up?  Maybe write each of them a note that they receive the morning of the wedding telling them how much you love them / how excited you are to join their family?  I would just try to find a balance between including them and keeping the day/ceremony about the two of you.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I don't mean my 3 yo is too old, but by the time we get married, I feel she might be too old, but that depends when we decide to get married. Plus, having one and not the others may cause hurt feelings. My oldest daughter is 11 now, and she felt weird about being a FG in my sisters wedding 4 years ago so she was a jr. bridesmaid along with my oldest son. My middle two (didn't have the youngest yet) were the RB and FG. To me, it's a personal preference on the ages of RB and FG. </div><div>
</div><div>I also didn't mean we'd have 8 readings. Just that those are special tasks/jobs/whatever you want to call them, that they could do. Not all of them, but give them each something special to do. Does that make sense? Sorry if I wasn't clear on that before. I know you're not the one that mentioned something about calling them jobs, but I just wanted to clear that up. </div>

MyFirefightersPrincess

Thanks with the help ladies!! I really appreciate it! The guilt for not wanting them in the WP or a huge part of the ceremony is gone. I'm glad I didn't come across as a nasty person. 

I am definitely going to use the "Who gives her away" part and the procession idea. I like the part about giving them bouquets/boutonnieres and they'll have a special mention in the program, too. 

OliveOilsMom

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[QUOTE]Thanks with the help ladies!! I really appreciate it! The guilt for not wanting them in the WP or a huge part of the ceremony is gone. I'm glad I didn't come across as a nasty person.  <strong>I am definitely going to use the "Who gives her away" part </strong>and the procession idea. I like the part about giving them bouquets/boutonnieres and they'll have a special mention in the program, too. 
Posted by MyFirefightersPrincess[/QUOTE]

You may know this, but if you are marrying in the Catholic Church again, they do not use the "who gives away this bride" line.  This is not a Catholic custom and probably won't be allowed.  I would discuss it with your priest.  I really do love the processional idea with the kids and when it's time for the vows, you can have your children stand around you, with the MOH & BM.

OliveOilsMom

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[QUOTE]Thanks with the help ladies!! I really appreciate it! The guilt for not wanting them in the WP or a huge part of the ceremony is gone. I'm glad I didn't come across as a nasty person.  I am definitely going to use the "Who gives her away" part and the procession idea. I like the part about giving them bouquets/boutonnieres and they'll have a special mention in the program, too. 
Posted by MyFirefightersPrincess[/QUOTE]

You may know this, but if you are marrying in the Catholic Church again, they do not use the "who gives away this bride" line.  This is not a Catholic custom and probably won't be allowed.  I would discuss it with your priest.  I really do love the processional idea with the kids and when it's time for the vows, you can have your children stand around you, with the MOH & BM.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding Etiquette-Children : I was raised Catholic and my previous marriage has been anulled. (My ex decided he is a bi-sexual and that put him in a predicament with the church anyway.) Our children have relationships with their other parent, even if they aren't the greatest relationships. Really, this is between my bf and me, and I couldn't care less what our exes think. If they put our children in the middle of this, that is their error and we will deal with that if it should arise. We have not put our children in a weird position concerning the other parent and their bf/gf, wedding plans, etc. Our kids are extremely excited at the idea of us getting married and keep asking when it's going to happen, although we keep telling them it will happen when it's time.  I do want to make the kids feel a part of things and not left out, that's why I want to incorporate them somehow, just not in a gigantic way, as it's our marriage, not theirs.
Posted by MyFirefightersPrincess[/QUOTE]

OP, you did not have to give NYU ANY explanations, she's just nosey and brought up points that were irrelevant to your original questions.

I like the idea of having them walk in before you. That would make them feel involved. They'll be in pictures anyway so no need to give them special "tasks / jobs" Maybe the older ones can do the readings though.

MyFirefightersPrincess

It won't be a Catholic ceremony as I can't find a Catholic church around here I like. Actually, I'd really like to have an outside wedding, but not sure about that. 

I do know a few things though...we ARE going to ride away on "his" firetruck and they (my bf and his GM) are NOT going to be allowed to play with fire despite what he says. lol He was on the ambulance service for a long time, but we are NOT having anyone taken away in an ambulance.

NO2012

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[QUOTE]definitely don't try to include 8 separate readings/songs.  and how is a 3yo too old to be a FG?  I can see not wanting to make any of them in the WP if you're not going to have them all, but that part confused me. I really like the idea of the kids "giving you away" that PP mentioned.  and having them in the processional could also make them feel special, and/or giving them bouts/corsages.  <strong>Or you could play 'we are family' and have them all join you on the dance floor to open it up?</strong>  Maybe write each of them a note that they receive the morning of the wedding telling them how much you love them / how excited you are to join their family?  I<strong> would just try to find a balance between including them and keeping the day/ceremony about the two of you</strong>.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I wish I had thought of this for our wedding!  It would have been perfect.  My 6 yr old stepdaughter spent the entire week after the wedding singing this song on her own.  :) 

Second bolded part: this exactly.  It's tricky and not easy, but it can be done with everyone feeling special and loved, and you not compromising the focus of your ceremony.  However, I will have to warn you that in my case, I felt the children were appropriately involved in the ceremony without taking away from DH and I, but all bets were off at the reception.  Once everyone started dancing, the kids took over the dance floor with their cousins (the only children at our DW) for most of the evening and it was hilarious.  Very fun and it was true reflection of how happy they were.  Good luck!

itzMS

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[QUOTE]It won't be a Catholic ceremony as I can't find a Catholic church around here I like. Actually, I'd really like to have an outside wedding, but not sure about that.  I do know a few things though...<strong>we ARE going to ride away on "his" firetruck </strong>and they (my bf and his GM) are NOT going to be allowed to play with fire despite what he says. lol He was on the ambulance service for a long time, but we are NOT having anyone taken away in an ambulance. :)
Posted by MyFirefightersPrincess[/QUOTE]

From experience, just be aware that your ceremony site will likely have to be within the range of the Department's normal jurisdiction. The on-duty firefighters will need to stay with the truck and be ready to run on a call. Make sure your FI gets all the details from his Chief before you set this plan in stone...!

lily_721

I have two stepsons who were 15 and 17 when we were married.  They didn't really want to do anything.  They decided to be ushers. 

MyFirefightersPrincess

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second Wedding Etiquette-Children : From experience, just be aware that your ceremony site will likely have to be within the range of the Department's normal jurisdiction. The on-duty firefighters will need to stay with the truck and be ready to run on a call. Make sure your FI gets all the details from his Chief before you set this plan in stone...!
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

<div>Yup! I am aware. We may not ride far, but we will ride away, even if it's just to our house. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /> Plus, this is a volunteer department and if they get called, like half the wedding guests will have to leave. Tis' the life of a firefighter's wife! When duty calls, duty calls and I won't hold that against him.</div>