Bridal Shower and my FMIL

Katapult5

okay. thank you.

Simply Fated

Why on Earth did your fiancé hand the phone over to you? It's his mother. A simple, "I'll have to get back to you on that." Would have sufficed. Next time, let him field the calls. Okay, your post was kinda long, so if I missed this, let me know... Your aunts are all invited but none of his aunts are? Is that what your FMIL is upset about?

weddingmuse

"Anyway, any suggestions on how to handle this?"

Yes.  Graciously ask your aunt to invite FI's aunts to the shower.  Then enjoy your shower.

You will be part of this family for the rest of your life.  There is no reason to dig your heels in over this and create hard feelings unnecessarily.  Let it go.

RaptorSLH

"They wouldn't all fit in the host's home, but if you wish to host a shower of your own, I'd be delighted to see them."

I understand where she's coming from, but if she's not footing the bill, she is way out of line to demand that someone else does.

The real problem here is that your FI is punting to you.  No, another talk with his mother will not change her.  But he should be presenting a united front with you, and run interference for his family members when required.  If that means "I'm not sure, I'll get back to you on that," so be it, but he needs to know making his mother your problem is not acceptable.

Simply Fated

Here's the thing... the gifts are supposed to be for your fiancé, too. So his family should be represented equally. The list does have to stop somewhere, but you didn't pick the best place to stop. His aunts should have come before your friends. If need be, you could have left off both sides of cousins. It works both ways. Your bridal party girls AND his bridal party girls. Your mother AND his mother. Your siblings AND his siblings. Your grandmothers AND his grandmothers. Your Aunts AND his aunts. Your cousins AND his cousins. Then friends, co-workers, etc You shouldn't base you list on your location. You should base your location on your list. Honestly, find a new place and offer your aunt to help pick up some extra costs if need be.

Simply Fated

It's also okay to have multiple showers, but I'm guessing no one from his side is throwing one because they assume they're going to the one your aunt is throwing you lol.

staceycaine

Bah. I missed it.