gift for destination wedding?

cutie4420

hey ladies!
                Have a gift question I am hoping for some opinions on. We are attending 2 very good friends' wedding in FL in September (were from Philly). We are paying over $1000 to attend (flight, hotel etc). normally for 2 close friends we would give $250 from the both of us. We are thinking more like $100-$150 since we are putting out so much to attend the wedding. what do you guys think??

danieliza1127

Sounds generous to me.  I think the standard no matter what is to give what you can afford to give and what sounds right to you.

balasj

I don't think its unusual to give a slightly smaller gift if it is a large financial burden for you to attend.  I am expeting many out of town guests and will understand if they can't give as large of a gift.  Sounds like you still plan to give a respectible amount and you are going all the way there - I think your friend will be thrilled.

yma1624

Sounds pretty generous to me. If it were my wedding, I would think that anything over having you just attend would be an overally generous surprise. :-)

shortee426

That's fine.  I went to a DW in Costa Rica and ended up not getting them anything.  Money was tight for me and I wanted to share their day, so I just didn't have the funds to get them a gift as well.  I know some of our other friends that came didn't get them a gift as well.  If I had a DW I would expect that some people wouldn't be able to afford a gift, and those that could would probably spend less than if it were local.

kaesha

We had a DW, and didn't expect gifts. I felt incredibly guilty that a few guests actually did give us something after they'd spent so much to come see us get married. At the risk of being cheesy, showing up is your present, IMO.

Calypso1977

we spent several thousand once to attend a DW.  the bride had not registered, and we did not give a gift.  we know it meant the world to the couple that we made the trek, and we truly felt that was gift enough given taht we used vacation time and hard earned savings to go.  so other than a card, we gave nothing.